What did I do to deserve God's judgement in regards to this situation? Beacuse I wasn't down there with a sign? I feel horrible about what she went through but in all honesty she IS in a better place now. We move on from here and work to make sure it was not a wasted life (there are already to many!)
I don't mean to imply that you individually are responsible. The idea is called Federalism. As an American, you are part of the corporate responsibility we all bear for this.
God judges individuals and nations. Nations are generally judged for their corporate and public actions. That is why there is a difference, in regards to judgment, between back-alley abortions and Main St Abortions. There is a difference between the scores (hundreds? thousands?) of folks murdered just like Terri behind closed doors and those murdered as we watch on Cable Television. We are more responsible for that which we know and that which we "lawfully" sanction.
Psalm 94:20, 21: Can a throne of destruction be allied with You, One which devises mischief by decree? They band themselves together against the life of the righteous And condemn the innocent to death. (New American Standard)