I love my husband but I didn't realize how absolutely and deeply a human could love until my son. Wait till you have kids, and then tell me you love your spouse more!
My love for my child is so overwhelming that it brings me to tears sometimes. It has also brought me closer to God.
I have five kids.
I love my spouse more, in a different way.
I'd love my kids in a different way than my husband. But if my love for my husband lessens to the point where I don't want him physically as much as I used to, where I spend more time talking nonsense with children than having the kinds of intimate, brilliant discussions I used to have with him, where I go around looking like a frump all the time and don't care about attracting him anymore, then that is a problem!
I don't think the kids should come first in a family. The relationship between the husband, the wife and God is the foundation.
I think you need to do some research on Gods plan for married people. No person should be more important than the spouse.