If you were in a pvs state when you were in your early 20's, you would expect your husband to sit there by your side until you died from "natural" causes? Even if it took 20-30 years? I think that is the most selfish, self-centered thing I have ever heard in my life. I love my husband enough to want him to live a happy and fulfilling life. Not waste it with some misguided sense of loyalty. For God's sake. You cannot possibly mean that.
Hildy,
You asked Mo1 a question.
You gave your own answer to your question.
You then called Mo1 (and others, myself included) some very descriptive names - all negative, mind you, but indeed very descriptive.
And then you said she couldn't mean that.
When I was growing up, if I did that in those steps, do you know what I was told by my mother?
You don't of course, because you were not blessed with knowing my mother.
If I did what you just did...
Poopy.
I HAVE DONE WHAT YOU JUST DID.
My mother sat accross the table from me (I was about 15, maybe 16) and said the following:
"....(my name, thank you), you just called her a liar."
No yelling. No grounding.
Just a disappointed look.
Was enough - taught me.
I take my marriage vows before God very seriously
If it was my husband that was going through this .. I would be by his side and not with another man
I can honestly say that I would do that for my husband, my best friend, my partner for life. And to hear him talk, he'd do the same thing too.
Believe it or not, there are folks out there who really meant it when they said "in sickness and in health, for better for worse, til death do us part."