Right out of the gate you're wrong. Do ten, fifteen minutes worth of research. Start with Operation Outcry or Project Rachel. See where those take you.
brainwashing by anti-abortion activists
Yeah, right. It couldn't be, perhaps, that the post-abortive woman woke up one morning and realized--to her horror--that she wilfully put to death an innocent, individual human life? No, brainwashing makes so much more sense.
Furthermore, lots of women who had babies they didn't want are traumatized -- either by having been forced to give up the baby, or by living under the constant stress of trying to raise a child they aren't emotionally or financially equipped to raise, while mourning for the life they (and their children) might have had if they had postponed childbearing until they were ready.
You're talking about a wee percentage there. Who on this earth doesn't have fleeting regret? Who isn't occasionally nostalgic for the way things once were? That is not trauma. That is normal. Ask any parent on this forum--emotions like that with regard to parenthood are not just fleeting, they are pretty damn rare--and there are some parents on this forum who had kids at a very young age. Those emotions are completely different than the trauma that post-abortive women have to deal with, for the rest of their lives. A woman's abortion doesn't simply move out after 18 years. It never goes away.
As it so happens, I am speaking for quite a few FReeperettes. You haven't walked in our shoes. You have no idea what it is like--none, unless you want to fess up to committing a homicide. It is horrific. Guilt, anguish, rage, helplessness, horror...would you honestly risk the chance that a child of yours would have to live with that all of her life???
Friends of mine who have had abortions -- mostly while in high school or college -- don't seem to have any of these symptoms. But of course, they don't move in circles where everybody is pushing the idea that they should. Women who believe that terminating an unwanted pregnancy as early as possible is the responsible thing to do, are usually comfortable with their decision. Obviously, women who were very conflicted about the decision in the first place are more likely to have second thoughts, regrets, etc. But trying to pressure any woman into feeling horrible about a past abortion is irresponsible and harmful, IMO.