Thanks for your message. We need to learn not to be so negative. Jesus told us: "Do not grumble among yourselves". John 6:43 I think that is a command. It is hard to love one another when we gripe and grumble among ourselves!
It's just like gossip, gossip starts rumors, rumors get blown out of proportion and then comes the hard feelings.
That's why the Lord tells us if we have any issue with others take it to them, if it doesn;t work, bring a witness, etc...
All we have to do is abide by his words and life will be much better for us all.
Matthew 18 guides us through the discipline a Christian needs to abide by. We have had to use it in our Church.