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I think that in the long run, most men find sex with a woman they share an emotional bond with much more satisfying. It's just that the hardwired instinct pretty much only looks at things in the short term.

If most men acted on their base instincts, it would be a disaster. Most men don't, and that's a good thing. But that instinct is still there.

Let me give you a quick illustration, and I think if people are honest most will agree its veracity.

Consider an attractive woman, and by that I mean looks like the commonly accepted standard of good looks - fit, leggy, buxom, pleasing features, etc (like the accused woman in the case we are talking about).

Lets say I have a non-sexual relationship with her - we work together and only casually know each other. Lets say I am talking with her in her office and conversation steers to a hobby of mine, and she is surprised since the hobby has a direct application to an item she has that needs repair.

"Oh wow, that's great! Could you do me a favor and look at something for me?"

Sure, I might say, since I am a helpful little fellow, especially to attractive women.

She then leans over in a pose that flatters her well shaped rear end and looks for an item in her office cabinet. As she looks (all of a few seconds) she says, "Oh, if you could fix this it would really help me out! My boyfriend tried to take care of it, but he just isn't very good with his hands."

OK, similarities to dumb scenes you might see on Threes Company and on Cinemax aside, most men (and I mean in the high 90%+) will immediately, instinctively think about sex. The fact that we have no emotional bond with her, barely know her, and even if we strongly dislike her as a person, has no bearing on the matter at that point.

That's not immature (lingering on it for more than an instant, or acting upon it unduly and rudely could be immature or even worse).

My instinct has nothing to do with my respect for my love interest, or somehow debasing the young lady who suddenly became the source of a sexual thought in my mind.

The truth is, while such remarks could certainly be meant provocatively, it's not uncommon for a woman to innocently create that type of scene for the typical male with no sexual component or agenda whatsoever on her end.

And yes, if you create the same scene with the same dialogue and instead of a fit, goodlooking woman, it's somebody's grandmother, then for most men, the sexual instinct would not kick in.

That's because as men, we want to have lots of sex with lots of good looking women very often.

It isn't rocket science, really.

PS - If anyone out there is thinking that this example I gave might have really happened to me, you just might be right.