"The fact that we have no emotional bond with her, barely know her, and even if we strongly dislike her as a person, has no bearing on the matter at that point. "
You could strongly dislike her and that would have NO effect on your attraction to her? Wow! Well, it is painfully obvious how different males and females think.
It's not a huge feat for a male to have strong negative feelings about a female personally, and still covet her carnally, yes. Sometimes very powerfully.
Yes, males and females think very differently in these matters. Each sides inability (or unwillingness) to see that the two sides look at things differently is a major obstacle to good communication between the sexes. It's too easy to be taken aback, 'offended,' disgusted, or otherwise pass judgment.
A shame.