We aren't too off base with one another...however, the main reason you refrain from acting "carnally" as we have deemed it, is only because you don't want to hurt your significant other or jeopardize your relationship. But, if she would never, ever find out, thus she would not be hurt nor would your relationship be jeopardized, would you do it? That, to me, is the fundamental question of character.
And isn't totally possible that the men I know are neither understating their desire nor am I misreading them? Maybe they just aren't satisified by empty sex. This is possible you know! Just because you can't fathom it does not mean it is unfathomable:)
Yes, I would refrain from such conduct even if there was no chance it would harm my love interest. I say so because I think the conduct is wrong, and also because I think the relationship is harmed (on my end) even if she never finds out.
My ability to be the type of romantic partner I want to be would be undermined by any illicit behavior like that.
As for the men in your life, honestly I did consider what you are saying and discounted it as fairly silly: I'm distinguishing from the instinct (which I do maintain is going to usually be present) and conduct (which is tempered).
I think you are acurately describing their conduct and articulated outlook, but are not offering much genuine insight into their instincts. As to why, I can't say.
The idea that the typical male would not instincively respond well to the prospect of sex with attractive, fit, beautiful, and willing young women is science fiction.
I don't doubt that most men temper their instincts, and ultimately become more domesticated to the idea that would rather have a more fulfilling and extended sexual relationship rather than a fleeting one, for all sorts of reasons.
That being said, the appeal of an uncomplicated, uncostly, unemotional, and uncluttered sexual adventure with a young, fit, attractive, goodlooking, leggy woman is very strong in most males.
If you don't agree, then I think the odds are higher that you are misreading the landscape, rather than I am misreading the landscape.