That's certainly a valid point--but i think their behavior also has something to do with a lack of a moral compass, not strictly their gender. But the bottom line is, I have strong instincts to do lots of things--rear end idiots who cut me off, tell people I can't stand to shut up, eat like a glutton, etc...but I don't do them because they are wrong and have serious consequences. We are seperated from the animal kingdom because we can actually control our urges. As I stated in a previous post, I know many men who are not even tempted by the idea of sex unless it is with someone they love. Its a matter of character in my book, not biology.
You are completely right - I have explicitly said that males are not slaves to their sexual instincts.
These instincts I am describing aren't for the best. The truth is, while most males of all ages have the instincts I am talking about, very very few act upon them constantly and consistently - their lives would be a disaster if they did.
Your view is not inconsistent with my view - in fact, it compliments it. But I do think that the male instincts on balance are refined by the presence of women in their lives, for the reasons I have stated. And I think that's a very good thing.
PS - as far as you knowing many men who are not even tempted to enjoy carnal sex with women they don't love (or even like, or even know), my gut tells me that either they are overstating their lack of temptation, or that you are misreading their instincts (not their character), or a combination of the two (and maybe something else).
What we think is a matter of instinct. What we do is a matter of character, morals, etc.
My instinct may be to find a particular woman I encounter very attractive - my character is to not act on that instinct (it would disrupt my important monogamous relationship, as well as hurt her, and I don't want to do either), and further not even to share my instinct with my romantic interest (Whoa, honey, did you see that chick? Man, I'd like to take her for a test drive, know what I mean??) That too would hurt or alienate her, and I don't want to harm someone I have romantic affection for.
So yes, that instinct is there, and nope, it's not a license to act in an uncivil way.
Anything less would be, literally, uncivilized.