She can blame you all she wants, wont change a thing.
It was her choice
She is wrong
Things will never be the same
The marriage may well be over, but it can be salvaged. Not an easy thing...
If there is any way of keeping it from the kids, I would advise that. If the marriage survives, you don't want them to know what their mother did.
Unfortunatly the marriage is over. She has been unhappy for many years and told me the only thing keeping her with me is the kids. I will not be telling the kids what she did just that mommy doesn't love daddy anymore. The kids is what breaks my heart the most since they suffer the most.