Good for you! 3/4 of the people I know who have been divorced have been men who have been heart-broken & bank-broken by merciless, heartless, she-devils. The last story I heard was involving a military guy & his wife. Words to describe her actions fail me.
She opened with the standard restraining order and the poor guy was devastated. When it was over, she had cleaned him out.
I found the evidence, made coppies, and played hardball. I really only wanted out at that point, but with a little thought, figured I could get my stuff and half of what we had purchased together. She got everything she had coming into the marriage, and half of what we bought. The deal was simple. Here is the stipulation, we do this without contention and big lawyer battles and we not only have something to split, I'll use "irreconcilable differences" as the grounds. Otherwise, I'm going to kick your butt in court and use infidelity as the grounds, and I can prove it.
Things got real civil, and when the dust settled, the lawyer bill came to all of $380.00.