Posted on 01/12/2005 4:01:27 PM PST by shrinkermd
Anyone who does a lot of public speaking knows there are certain questions that inevitably arise from the audience in a Q&A. In my case, lecturing on pseudoscience and the paranormal, I am almost always asked: What is my position on the afterlife? ("I'm for it"), have I ever encountered a mystery that science cannot explain? ("Paris Hilton"), and have I ever been skeptical of something that turned out to be real?
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"What is happening here is non-rational (not irrational) analysis at a level below conscious awareness. Students who view three 10-second video clips of a professor, for example, give roughly the same ratings of that professor's effectiveness as those students who actually took the course. The same effect can be seen in dating, where first impressions are everything, as is well known by those who have tried "speed dating" (a trendy way to meet people, in which each of multiple "dates" in one evening lasts only six minutes).
The whole idea is first impressions have both validity and reliability.
Many years ago a psychologist once wrote a book in which he claimed that psychotherapy was nothing but a purchase of friendship and if you didn't experience the therapist as a friend you should fire him. Of course, he meant a knowledgeable friend, but his approach had and has merit.
She had second thoughts after 30 minutes. We were platonic friends for 2 years after that, and finally got together and married for 10 years plus now. She insists that she wasn't ready for anything when she first met me, having just gotten a divorce. But I can't help but think that we would have an additional 2 years of happy married life had I become her roommate the day I met her. Maybe it wouldnt' have happened that way. Who knows?
First impression, in this case, was totally correct.
This makes me feel better... at 24, the only thing I know about girls is when it's *not* right. But I recently met a girl who has not only made it to about 6 "dates", she lives 6 hours away and I travel there as often as possible. The only problem is that at 19, she's 5 years younger than me. I remember that in the last 5 years, I've totally changed as a person and I have this tiny fear that she will grow and change to be different... leaving me in the dust.
But one day at a timeI guess... Sorry to get sappy LOL!!!
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Speed dating,Anything like speed sex?
My almost 19 year old daughter's boyfriend is 23. He is great for her.
She has never been happy with boys her age. She's a bit of an "old soul" so she never felt right with the boys her age.
It's funny, because all though this guy is a grown man, NOT ONE person in my family disapproves. Not even her father or grandparents.
These two just seem right together. I hope your relationship goes well.
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