Another issue, particularly in "blue" areas, is that to *properly* raise a child can be an immense challenge. For starters, trying to get by on a single income where I live (mandatory in case of a child, ain't gonna be no day care, no way, no how) is no small task. Oh, and mind you, I utterly refuse to take on any more debt than our current mortgage. Secondly, in terms of schooling, the real choices, in order to avoid the disgusting efforts of pedophilic peddlers of the Gay Agenda and other evil programming, are home schooling or private schooling. Add all that up, and, quite honestly, if we are to have kids, either we must move (and face lower income) or we must accomplish something in situ that borders on a miracle. In summary, it is pricisely my insistance on conservative standards of both child rearing and finances that has counterindicated having a child just yet.
You have to do what you think is best. Mr. Ex and I had to do precisely what you described in order for me to stay home with the children and still afford to live a decent life.
We are debating the homeschooling/private schooling idea right now. If we can't afford private school, I will probably end up homeschooling our children. We still have a little time to think about it. My soon-to-be five year old won't start kindergarten until the fall, and I doubt much harm can come to him until after that. At this point in their lives, we are our children's biggest influence.