Posted on 01/03/2005 8:31:56 AM PST by qam1
No joke: It is actually marriage as envisioned by the fine leftist lawyers of the American Bar Association.
Children are not part of marriage IS thier goal. They wrote it into their model divorce code. That model divorce code is the ONLY ONE used by legislators because it is the ONLY ONE. (it also envisions child visitation standing for homosexual recreational sex partners of divorcing mothers/fathers because children are mere ACCESSORIES to marriage. per ABA)
as I said, no joke, no sacasm, very real, very here.
I was frustrated for a while that I had no time for all my little projects and hobbies. After a while, it dawned on me that the kids are more challenging and rewarding than anything else I will ever do.
Most people without kids simply can't relate. They see the time demands and constraints of children to be heinous, even on people other than themselves.
But the older I get, the more I feel my own mortality, the more I realize that time spent on myself is more of a necessity than an entitlement or priviledge. And spending too much time on myself is just vanity, a waste that neither makes me nor anyone else happy.
I was frustrated for a while that I had no time for all my little projects and hobbies. After a while, it dawned on me that the kids are more challenging and rewarding than anything else I will ever do.
Most people without kids simply can't relate. They see the time demands and constraints of children to be heinous, even on people other than themselves.
But the older I get, the more I feel my own mortality, the more I realize that time spent on myself is more of a necessity than an entitlement or priviledge. And spending too much time on myself is just vanity, a waste that neither makes me nor anyone else happy.
Dogs are better in one regard, You can housebreak a dog within a week, while you will be changing dirty diapers for 2+ years with a kid. Evolution and/or the Intelligent Designer really screwed that one up.
True enough, on both parts. :~D
I understand your rant, but if all those who did not want children never got pregnant there would lees innocent babies murdered for blood money.
The secular left is focused on self and seeking pleasure.
It is a part of the culture war in differences on understanding the role of religion in society ("Church and State"), the homosexual agenda, and the lack of will to back school vouchers (no kids, no worry about schools).
I think it's important to point out the "degrees" of childlessness. For instance, I know a couple who is not going to "try" to have children, but they don't like to call themselves "Childless by Choice" or whatever the women above are touting, because if they did happen to get pregnant, they would welcome "God's Little Surprise" and raise it whereas other "Childless by Choice" couples would go to ANY lengths--including abortion--to not have children.
Having children that you cannot afford is a sign of immaturity. Having children even though you despise screaming, snotty brats is a sign of immaturity.
That maybe true but at 16, I also don't have to worry about driving lessons, who Hillary Duff is dating and general teenage angst. We can still head to the park and play fetch.
I see this "no one's business" asserted on a few replies. I'm going to disagree. Formation of families and the protection of same is the foundation upon which society is built. Celebrating voluntary childlessness is a subtle way to weaken that foundation.
Similar the gay agenda; that can do as they will, but don't try to sell me on that "one choice is as good as another" nonsense. It ain't so.
True enough.... The thing is, I know I'd be an excellent mom. My husbnd would be a great dad. I just have a completely different life that would have to change. For the next few years, I'd like to have that life. We just got married. We'd like to keep the plans for the life we married for and not turn all that upside down. But time's ticking against us, and I am not sure it is fair to have babies at 40.
Easier to care for than kids. When a dog barfs it's not that big a deal :-)
LOL! That's the first time I've ever read that admission posted on FR, but certainly not the first time it should have been posted! I know many FReepers who should have that as their tagline.
At eighteen, I got to watch my daughter walk down the aisle.
Much better than fetch, IMO.
That's one reason I dreaded visiting my grandmother in the rest home. Our family had it set up so someone visited her every day for several years. There was only one lady I remember who had her husband visit every day. When the rest home staff commpliment you on visiting often, you just have to wonder.....
I am the oldest of ten kids. I told my mom one time that when I think back on what it took to get us all ready for church on Sunday I am just amazed. I asked her how she did it and she just said, "We just did it." One of my fondest memories of my dad is when us kids would line up in front of him so he could brush our hair.
I ain't touching that one! LOL...
You have a tougher choice to make than the people in the story, which was kind of a nothing story in the first place.
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