I really don't know what the solution is. I can't blame intelligent women for wanting to be achieviers also in things other than the family life. On a personal level, my mother has an MD and PhD as well as a successfull medical career and still found enough time to have three kids. I guess its all about priorities.
What did your father do for a living?
The message intelligent women should hear is: you are a breeding machine that society has attempted to defeat and sidetrack, with false promises of a life made more worthwhile by intellectual achievement.
What's happening to young people is population control operating on a very personal level. Most "educated" young people cannot afford the lifestyle they have been programmed to desire (apartment or house on the safe/stylish side of town, high-status college degrees, newish cars, ski vacations, blue locale (e.g., SF)) without a second income.
The real winners and survivors in this society are the people who embrace a life of sruggle and probable poverty without the likelihood of high-status frills, who marry poor and are happy about it, and generally don't compete very hard in the race to die with the most "toys".