Gal after my own heart. And, there are single men on FR who have said they *would* settle because they don't want to wait until they're 72 to have children. Or, they'd rather have foreign wives with no opinions. Makes me even more skeptical of single men now. Where have all the good, decent, and relatively attractive guys gone?
Don't lower your standards. Period.
To the valley of the smart, busty nymphomaniacs.
Cuz if you DO.......this chick will be all OVER you!!!!
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Don't lower your standards. Period.
Thanks for the encouragement. I always say there are worse things than being alone. I especially say that after going out with another loser.
The problem is, that the intelligent and successful ladies seem to establish for themselves "standards" that are as "upwardly-mobile" as themselves.
They hold up the men they meet to such close examination (after all, they are intelligent and demanding women, right?), that few - perhaps _none_ - will "meet the bar". No matter "how close" a guy might come, there is that niggling inner doubt that, perhaps if she just waits, she will discover someone closer to her "ideal". So she holds out, often [perhaps unconsciously] _raising_ the bar just a notch higher in anticipation.
To her, accepting the man with the slight faults would be "lowering her standards", and because she is who she is, so should be the male who would be "good enough" for her. She's the best and she demands "her equal". There can be no "compromise" (wasn't "The Fountainhead" written about someone with a similar viewpoint, albeit regarding his work?).
Such women are destined to end up alone, not because there is anything wrong with their personalites per se. Rather, their inability to shape their expectations to fit reality will do them in.
Not that _any_ of them would be interested in _me_, of course (laughs), just another working-class guy who was lucky to have pulled himself up from the minimum wage to the lower rungs of the middle class. Too old now to be a candidate for marriage, anyway, certainly for a family.
But - years ago - I remember composing a detailed personal ad while "searching" myself. In trying to communicate the type of woman I was looking for, I wrote this line: "I'm not particular about your educational background or employment".
The point was that it was entirely unrealistic to be setting demands that might cut off possible responses, and, actually, I didn't really _care_ about such things, anyway. Such things didn't seem important to me. What _was_ important is that there might be "something there" between us, that "spark", that counted for more...
Compromise is all too often the essence of life, and the giving of one's self to marriage probably entails more "compromisin'" than most folks are willing to admit. But when successful women are so adamantly opposed to the notion of making a few compromises in the search for a mate, I sense they're gonna be searchin' a long time!
- John