"it's a way of showing and establishing dominance and the "pecking order". It's not really about sex"
And that is precisely the point. Here is a link to an essay by Dennis Prager that argues that Jewish culture's transition from the classical view of sex as dominance to sex as a sanctified gift from God is one of the most significant events in the history of civilization. Without question the best writing I have ever seen on the subject.
http://www.catholiceducation.org/articles/homosexuality/ho0003.html
That was a very good article. I am a Southern Baptist but was allowed to go to church with my Catholic friends when I was young and I love the Catholic church. I feel like I'm caught in the middle somewhere. Thanks for the link! I was able to relate to and agree with the article.