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What's a peacenik to do when son joins Army?
Chicago Sun-Times ^ | December 24, 2004 | CATHLEEN FALSANI RELIGION WRITER

Posted on 12/24/2004 8:22:32 AM PST by Chi-townChief

Let's say you're a big peacenik. Card-carrying. World class. You marched in anti-war protests and sat in sit-ins when you were a college student during the Vietnam War. Maybe you even got tear-gassed while holding hands with Mary from Peter, Paul and Mary during a particularly nasty protest in front of the Conrad Hilton back in '68.

You've been arrested dozens of times for civil disobedience, continue to march, or sit, or picket, or shout on behalf of peace, and are one of the loudest voices in Chicago against President Bush and what you consider to be his immoral war in Iraq.

Now, let's say you have a son.

And he decides to join the Army.

What do you do?

That's what the Rev. Michael Pfleger, the activist pastor of Chicago's St. Sabina Roman Catholic Church and die-hard peacenik in question, asked himself when his eldest son, 30-year-old Lamar Michael Pfleger, called home in late August to say he'd enlisted.

"When he first told me that this was something he had made a decision to do, I was shocked, I have to admit that," Mike Pfleger told me this month as the three of us -- Mike in his black-on-black priestly garb and worried expression, Lamar in his new Army fatigues with the word PFLEGER printed in black, capital letters over his right chest -- chatted at the St. Sabina's parsonage, where Lamar grew up after Pfleger adopted him 21 years ago.

"He basically told me after he'd enlisted," the elder Pfleger said. "He knew where I stood, but he'd made up his mind."

Son's decision

In truth, Mike Pfleger was heartsick.

As an activist priest who insists we're fighting an unjust, preemptive war based on lies, yes. But more so, as, simply, a dad.

"I told him, I cannot feel good about it because he's my son, and I love him and I care about him," the normally bombastic priest said quietly. "My prayer for him and for Beronti, my other son, every day is for their safety and that they can achieve their goals. And that's my prayer for him, that he will achieve whatever dreams and goals God has for him. And I support him 100 percent in his decision. It's not my decision. And it shouldn't be. It should be his."

Lamar Pfleger is strapping, soft-spoken and African American, the opposite in many ways of his father, the blond, blue-eyed firebrand. But they share a stubborn streak, as well as a sense of spiritual mission.

A few years ago, Lamar was working for an airline in a job he loved. But then 9/11 happened and everything changed. The airlines suffered and jobs were cut. He survived the first round of layoffs, but not the second. A few years later, he found himself working as the assistant manager of a video store, depressed and unfulfilled. In prayer he felt God leading him to join the military, he told me.

"I knew I could be doing a lot more besides what I was doing. That's pretty much why I decided to go in," he said. "I'd rather go over there and stop them before they come over here and start doing it. And that's my point. . . . If I can prevent that from happening, I'll sleep better at night, too."

Childhood restrictions

This from a kid who wasn't allowed to play with toy guns as a child. "Not even squirt guns," his father said, proudly. "I got a cowboy gun once for my birthday, and he told me I had to take it back," Lamar recalled. "From then on, I should have known what kind of protest I was in for."

A few days earlier, I had called the elder Pfleger to wish him a Merry Christmas. "And how are your boys?" I asked. (In addition to Lamar, Pfleger has a younger son, 25-year-old Beronti, whom he adopted 13 years ago.)

All I heard on the other end of the line was a heavy sigh. I prodded and Mike told me how he'd just returned from Lamar's graduation from basic training in Georgia and how he'd cried through the whole thing. Happily, Mike said, Lamar -- "thank you, Jesus" -- had been assigned to a base in Seattle for at least a year.

When the three of us got together, I asked Lamar about his assignment in a combat striker unit of the 2nd Infantry at Fort Lewis in Seattle.

I kind of wish I hadn't.

The son took a deep breath, eyes darting to the ceiling, nostrils flaring nervously, and looked at his father.

"I've been assigned to Fort Lewis where I'll be taking classes and just staying in physical shape and probably be on standby until I'm possibly deployed. There's a good chance . . ." Lamar said, pausing uncomfortably, and turning toward his father. "I didn't want to tell my dad that, but there's a good chance I might be [deployed to Iraq]."

The father blanched visibly, but remained silent and tried to smile.

This must be killing him, I thought.

"Coming home, you know, missing a limb, that scares me more than anything," Lamar continued. "I would like to go by the phrase, 'Take all of me or take none of me.' . . . I'll be praying for myself, 'God, please forgive me for whatever I have to do.' But in the long run, it's something I have to do," he said.

'Death . . . anywhere'

Mike Pfleger is praying that his son won't be sent to Iraq.

"If he does, I'll continue to pray for his safety, no matter where he is," the priest said. "You don't have to be in Iraq to get maimed or killed. It can happen on a street. My youngest son, Jarvis, died here, three blocks away from here. So I know that harm or danger or death can come anywhere."

(Pfleger's foster son Jarvis was killed in gang crossfire seven years ago at the age of 17.)

"I just don't want my dad to worry," Lamar said.

"Not much hope of that, but he's gonna be all right because prayer is powerful," Mike Pfleger said, reaching out and touching his son's shoulder. "You're gonna be all right."

U.S. Army Pvt. Lamar Pfleger reports for duty Jan. 16.

And our prayers go with him.


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To: Chi-townChief
Rev. Michael Pfleger, the activist pastor of Chicago's St. Sabina Roman Catholic Church

What's wrong with this picture?

81 posted on 12/24/2004 11:33:50 AM PST by TASMANIANRED (Free the Fallujah one)
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To: Piranha

I have never heard of a lay person being called pastor in a Roman Catholic church.


I read it again to make sure it wasn't Greek Catholic. The greek catholics do marry.


82 posted on 12/24/2004 11:35:44 AM PST by TASMANIANRED (Free the Fallujah one)
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To: Non-Sequitur

I "booted him out on his ass and told him never to darken my doorstep again."

Does that answer your question?


83 posted on 12/24/2004 11:38:49 AM PST by El Gran Salseron (( The replies by this poster are meant for self-amusement only. Read at your own discretion. ))
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To: Maria S
I, too, wonder how a catholic priest has kids!?!

The same way anyone else does. For the sake of our younger audience, I won't go into the details.

;-p

84 posted on 12/24/2004 11:38:54 AM PST by reg45
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To: Non-Sequitur

Nice try.
But this is not just any type of behaviour that his father might disapprove of. It is the very basis of his fathers life long protest however immaturely and his son is teaching him a lesson about responsibility and protest.
Hopefully his father is able to grow up and see that his life has been misused except for raising this great son.


85 posted on 12/24/2004 12:00:43 PM PST by chuckwalla (the insanity, the lunacy these days)
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To: krb; G.Mason

Thanks!


86 posted on 12/24/2004 1:18:10 PM PST by Travis McGee (----- www.EnemiesForeignAndDomestic.com -----)
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To: shotokan
In my experience, these are the folks who turn out to be damn fine marksmen.

That's partly because they don't have to unlearn bad habits.

87 posted on 12/24/2004 2:04:25 PM PST by ApplegateRanch (The world needs more horses, and fewer Jackasses!)
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To: Non-Sequitur
What if your son came home one day and announced that he was doing something that was completely opposed to everything you stood for and believed in? Would you be as supportive of his decision as Father Pfleger has been? Or would you boot him out on his ass and tell him never to darken your door again? Be honest now.

You always suport family. ALWAYS.
That Father Pfleger did so was to meet the minumum standards of humanity.
If one of them turns out to be a Jeffrey Dahmer or a Scott Peterson, then it is your duty to take care of him in another sense, and not burden the State.

So9

88 posted on 12/24/2004 2:09:38 PM PST by Servant of the 9 (Trust Me)
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To: El Gran Salseron
Does that answer your question?

Yeah. Proud of it, too, aren't you?

89 posted on 12/24/2004 2:17:05 PM PST by Non-Sequitur (Jefferson Davis - the first 'selected, not elected' president.)
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To: chuckwalla
Hopefully his father is able to grow up and see that his life has been misused except for raising this great son.

You may not agree with him but his entire life has been spent standing up for what he believes in the face of pressure. He has never compromised his principles. If only there was one person in Washington we could say that about.

90 posted on 12/24/2004 2:20:13 PM PST by Non-Sequitur (Jefferson Davis - the first 'selected, not elected' president.)
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To: NYer

The guy would probably be much happier if his son had told him that he was homosexual and had married his boyfriend.


91 posted on 12/24/2004 3:07:34 PM PST by glorgau
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To: Non-Sequitur

This country was built by people who stood up against pressure. Unfortunatley the pressure is now coming from the anti-America crowd who do not understand by what mechanism their freedoms are secured.
The fact that the father is wrong does not make him patriotic.
Greatness is when one puts aside his petty wants and thinks and acts for greater good.
His son is one fine example of what has made this country free for his father to protest.
Now his son is protesting his own father's choices in order to guarantee his fathers freedom to protest the very mechanism that his father wishes wrongly to eliminate.


92 posted on 12/24/2004 3:23:28 PM PST by chuckwalla (the insanity, the lunacy these days)
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To: Chi-townChief

Be proud Papa. Your son grew up to be a better man than you are.


93 posted on 12/24/2004 3:26:48 PM PST by bad company (Just cause you're paranoid doesn't mean someone's not out to get you.)
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To: Non-Sequitur

Yes, I am very proud of it. My booting his ass out saved him from a world of alcohol and drugs. He's now clean.


94 posted on 12/24/2004 4:02:10 PM PST by El Gran Salseron (( The replies by this poster are meant for self-amusement only. Read at your own discretion. ))
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To: Maria S

If he joined the priesthood as a widower, it would all make sense.


95 posted on 12/24/2004 4:04:25 PM PST by Petronski (Don't ask me about my pneumonia...it's making me very cranky.)
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To: Redcloak

Or, he was a terrible parent and this is the way his son rebels??


96 posted on 12/24/2004 5:38:08 PM PST by It's me
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To: chuckwalla
Now his son is protesting his own father's choices in order to guarantee his fathers freedom to protest the very mechanism that his father wishes wrongly to eliminate.

And the father is respecting the son's decision and supporting his right to make that decision. He isn't cutting him off or booting him out, like some around here would have done.

97 posted on 12/24/2004 6:10:51 PM PST by Non-Sequitur (Jefferson Davis - the first 'selected, not elected' president.)
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To: El Gran Salseron
Yes, I am very proud of it. My booting his ass out saved him from a world of alcohol and drugs. He's now clean.

And all the credit goes to you and your enlightened parenting. Right?

98 posted on 12/24/2004 6:11:45 PM PST by Non-Sequitur (Jefferson Davis - the first 'selected, not elected' president.)
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To: Non-Sequitur

Perhaps there is hope for him.


99 posted on 12/24/2004 6:15:08 PM PST by chuckwalla (the insanity, the lunacy these days)
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To: Chi-townChief

Sometimes, when a child is raised by an ultra-lefty, the child spends his life acutely aware of how phony the leftist positions are, and rejects them. The leftist in question may not even be consciously aware that he has embraced lies (although he knows it subconsciously), but some children see it very clearly.

Good for Pvt. Lamar. May he have a long and successful career in the Army.


100 posted on 12/24/2004 6:30:22 PM PST by exDemMom (Truth, justice, and the American way!)
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