What Japanese Women Want: A Western Husband

The Christian Science Monitor ^ | December 6, 2004 | Bennett Richardson

[HairOfTheDog]

I'm mean to them and they love it (and me)! .... I've learned to be a bastard--and now it's all good....

I love it when two broken people can find each other... It warms my heart.

[Cogadh na Sith]

That's my point--I have had good luck with that! :)

Why have I had good luck with that when being 'nice' and 'supportive' and 'sharing' didn't work at all?

*sprays with lysol*

LOL!

[Glenmerle]

It was the Food Lion story that did it for you, wasn't it? You can admit it.

OK, yes, I confess. I'm a fool for humor. :-)

[RandallFlagg]

"FREEEEEEDOOOOMMMM!!!!!!"

[Cogadh na Sith]

But can you dig a new line to my septic tank?

It depends....

What'll you do for me?

[Just another Joe]

He does have a point, hair.
When you're a young man, being nice doesn't usually get you anywhere in the short term time frame most young men are interested in.
If you're going to be nice you have to go long. Of course going long normally pays more dividends in the end.

[processing please hold]

Strange you should ask that. Our 24 year old daughter is in college to be a Pediatric surgical nurse. She makes extra money by roofing, carpentary work and electrical instillation, laying tile floors is her forte. Last summer she and my hubby did just that, laid in a new septic line.

On the feminine side of her, she cooks as good, if not better than I do. But please, never ever ask her to wash a dish. Washing dishes, she refuses to do.

[Fatalis]

You misunderstand.... We are asking very specifically about you, because you are the one telling us that we are, as a class, inappreciative of you and ungrateful.

I actually understand very well. I made generalizations about American men and women, and you and a few others took those generalizations personally. If generalizations don't apply to you, then don't worry about them.

But I don't overgeneralize, that would diminish him.

That's not how generalizations work. Generalizations are not specific.

He isn't the one on here berating American women, you are.

LOL, I made a negative generalization, and rather than refute the generalization as a generalization, you've internalized it and personalized it. I don't know you and have no idea if any of the generalization would apply to you.

There are cultural phenomena at work, and it takes generalizations to discuss and undestand them. By their nature, cultural phenomena are general.

Do you really assume that there's not any applicable negative generalization about American women that might be a factor in these phenomena?

[TalonDJ]

What? Shooting ain't a gender role crossing in my book. I consider it a requirement! I don't want a woman that is helpless when I am not there. If she knows firearms and/or kung-fu, so much the better.

[Mr. Jeeves]

My belief is that there is no point in looking for the pot of gold at the end of the Asian rainbow. Feminist attitudes in American women are usually superficial, driven by bad personal experiences and media propaganda. If he knows how to get past her barriers and speak to the woman inside, a man can transform even the bitterest shrew into a loyal, loving companion (barring mental illness on her part, of course). And likewise, even the best foreign woman can turn out to be much less than she appears to be for a man who doesn't live up to his obligations.

Avoiding American women and looking for wives overseas is like riding a bicycle with training wheels. Their different upbringing may make the initial stages of the courtship and marriage easier for a man who doesn't know what he is doing, but the relationship will eventually fail badly if he doesn't start advancing and growing himself - because she will rapidly adapt to American life and start holding him to the same standards American women would.

American men should stop looking for shortcuts. There really aren't any. ;)

[processing please hold]

Amen. I only use cast-iron. Nothing better to cook in.

Fried catfish...yum

[najida]

But can you dig a new line to my septic tank?

It depends....
What'll you do for me?

How about give ya a hand-up outta the hole? >:>

[HitmanLV]

"They don't act like women are maids - I think they view women as individuals."

Hey! Maids ARE individuals, Einstein! :-)

[TalonDJ]

That is just it. While 'going to church' is great advice for finding a place with good women, it does not necessarily put you in a setting to trying to court them.

[Cogadh na Sith]

I don't see that guy digging your septic line, or changing diapers, or being an 'equal partner'.

Yet that is your fantasy.

By being a 'nice guy', a man cannot satisfy that elusive 'fantasy' part and a woman will discard him.

Now get William Wallace a nice ale out of the 'fridge, won't you?

[RosieCotton]

Yes. This is what I don't understand. I've been reading threads like this for years on FR (and I promised myself I'd never get involved in one!), and why any man would post a "stick it American women" message on this of all forums is beyond me. You guys know who your audience is, don't you? This is the most inappropriate place for such comments -- so what's going on?

LOL! Yep, this is a great place to meet good conservative gals...but still we have a lot of these threads.

And I show up...dunno why. Guess it's the train wreck factor.

[workerbee]

Ah Mel... be still my heart. I was a young teenager when Mad Max was out and I remember some girlfriends were all agog over him. I wasn't then but I swear, even then I said "talk to me in 15 or 20 years, he'll improve." Oh my, has he ever...

[HairOfTheDog]

He does have a point, hair.

His point is to act like the stud who can get the cheap desperate women into bed. Great.... That is what those women think they want too. For a couple hours, they feel wanted.

But I don't want to hear him whine about how he isn't meeting any quality women this way.

[Cogadh na Sith]

I admit that I'm broken.

So, why do women, in general, respond so well to being treated badly?

[derllak]

I get you,dmz! Didn't take a lot of effort, now did it?
You be the man!!! (have you run out of stores yet??)Lol!