Teens Tell Stories Of Sex At House Parties

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[luckystarmom]

I just mentioned the movie "Thirteen" and it is another very shocking and disturbing movie.

I think it's good to know what other kids may be going through, and to keep your own kids away from them.

[MEGoody]

"Research shows 16 percent of girls and 20 percent of boys have engaged in sexual intercourse by the time they reach their 14th birthday."

Which means 84% of girls and 80% of boys have not. That's the good news.

The key is to figure out what went right in the lives of that 84%/80% and try to incorporate that in the lives of the rest of the kids.

[rlmorel]

You sound like a good mom. You don't want to be their friend...you want to be their parent. Even if your kids did hate you, that means they will love you someday.

[F-117A]

BJ clinton Legacy Bump!

[Abathar]

""I do that too... but I really DO ask lots of questions when I see other parents, teachers, etc...
The other thing I do is snoop in their rooms! I can't believe some of the things kids say in notes they pass at school. 7th and 8th grade is the age when it started getting pretty graphic... but at least I know what subjects to discuss when frequent mother/son talks occur.""

Tell me about it, my wife volunteered as a playground monitor, and she has the hearing of bat. She came home absolutely shocked at what she had heard 3-5 graders talking about on recess. She said she never even knew a lot of that stuff until she was in college! She talked about it with my daughters teacher later that day after school and found out a lot that never got outside the school, like 2 5th graders having sex in the boiler room and getting caught, or the picture swapping between kids having oral sex. By the time she got done telling me this I was already re-figuring our budget to include parochial schools as a necessity.

[Chunga]

The girls would say "no," and the boys would generally respect the girls' wishes, in fear of their lives and in deference to the girls' fathers.

When dads leave their families, daughters are easy prey.

[Skinn_dogg]

I think all 14 year olds are full of sh-t. Especially ones in alcohol treatment programs.

[TChris]

No really, let's call him something else...

He will be called Jay... eventually. Not that "Jay" is what he'll be called now. ;-)

[TChris]

I feel you.

Hey, homie, don't be feelin' me!

[BlackRazor]

Oh, my. You're accusing most adult heterosexual people of sodomy, I guess. Oral sex is not sodomy. It's never even mentioned in the Bible. Couples do it all the time.

Maybe she's Catholic. Oral sex (with orgasm), even among married couples, is considered sinful by the Catholic church.

[newcats]

I agree whole heatertedly.
It is buffyt that has issues.

[Alright_on_the_LeftCoast]

That's where my eyes were opened too... and I never forget that I too was young. (I still am... in my mind!!)

I considered private too, not for that reason. Many kids around here have gone... same problems, believe it or not. My kids stayed in public schools (in Oregon, where they're TERRIBLE!). Now, as a single parent, I prefer to keep doing what I do... which is to be the parent, not the friend. I continue to hope that I'm doing the right thing, which is to talk with them constantly... no subject is off limits... this way I'm the one who will hopefully have a bigger influence in the long run; continue to try to set an example and teach personal responsibility, self-respect and respect of others. So far, so good... 14 and 17 and pretty good kids.

[sandbar]

>Oral Sex = SODOMY! One step BEYOND intercourse and into >perversion. Clinton = Pervert.

Hey, I'm no pervert, but oral sex is no stranger in my house. Husband and wife should be allowed to show affection how they want. Trashy oral sex behind a desk is another thing entirely.

[agrace]

Lee said she discovered that second-, third- and fourth-graders are talking about sex.

Homeschool til they graduate ping.

Read the whole article. It's real nifty. And in Cleveland suburbs no less.

[petitfour]

My daughter came home from school the other day and was upset about something that had happened in her first class of the day. To me, it was rather trivial, and she got over it though it did bug her all day long. What was most upsetting to me was what happened on her way home from school. She rides a bus, and the students have assigned seats. My daughter has complained on a number of occasions about the person who sits next to her, but she was really ticked about what happened on this particular day. The female with whom she shares a seat stood up and kissed another girl right there on the bus. She is obviously wanting attention, but blech! The response from the other occupants of the bus was rather vocal, but I'm not sure if the bus driver ever noticed a commotion. Blech blech blech. I think the girl in question is only a seventh grader, but I wonder where her parents have been during the last 12/13 years as well.

[MineralMan]

"Maybe she's Catholic. Oral sex (with orgasm), even among married couples, is considered sinful by the Catholic church."

Whatever. I suppose Catholics honor this, one and all. Right.

[HamiltonJay]

that's a girl... this is about a 9 year old BOY.

[MineralMan]

"that's a girl... this is about a 9 year old BOY."

Yes, and...?

While few 9 year old boys enter puberty, they still have their own sexuality. Hard as it is, I can still remember being 9 and looking at pictures of naked women and having the typical male reaction.

And where did I find such pictures? It wasn't difficult. Lots of the nasty little boys in my neighborhood had them. Little boys.....not as innocent as you'd think.

[Campion]

I suppose Catholics honor this, one and all. Right.

What does that have to do with anything? Catholic belief isn't defined by what most or all Catholics do, any more than Jewish belief is defined by the fact that most Jews don't keep kosher.

Orthodox Christian believers believe in objective moral truth. Something can be wrong even if 100% of people do it, because (with 2 notable exceptions, as far as Catholics are concerned), every person who's ever lived has sinned.

You evidently don't believe in objective moral truth. Your belief seems inherently self-contradictory and paradoxical, because to deny the existence of objective moral truth is automatically to assert an objective moral truth.

And, yes, my wife and I try to be faithful to the teachings of our Catholic faith in every part of our lives, including in the bedroom. We've found it to be profoundly fulfilling and beautiful.