Posted on 11/27/2004 4:07:31 AM PST by DirtyHarryY2K
The manner in which the money is ACQUIRED is the reason any and everyone who knows the winner feels free to ask for, and in the case of family, EXPECT a chunk of it. HARD-EARNED money doesn't carry this expectation of its recipient.
I feel sorry for lottery winners, and I think a study would prove that most die miserable. I will not buy a lottery ticket because I am afraid I wll WIN.
By choosing annual payouts, (at least in Ohio you have that choice, discounted cash payment, or annual, don't know about Texas) you shouldn't forfeit the unpaid dividends if you die.
At least in Ohio, they continue to pay out to your heirs until the full amount is paid.
Once you have enough money to put a roof over your head and food on the table and provide for other basic needs, everything else is just gravy.
One thing Americans must learn is to quit buying every piece of junk that comes along, just because it exists.
Madison Avenue keeps telling us we need more and more stuff.
It ain't the path to happiness.
"Winning the lottery is the worst thing that ever happened to me." Because he allowed this to happen: But everyone, it seemed -- family, friends, fellow worshipers and strangers -- was putting the touch on him. His spending and his lending spiraled out of control.
If I ever remember to buy that winning lottery ticket a really big one the first thing I would do is pay off the few bills I have, write checks to my daughter, sister and a few friends then set up an investment portfolio.
Then I would by a large RV and find a new place to live. I too am a soft touch, but I know from experience that a soft touch can often be slammed.
You're right, a lot is missing. Either the author did not know many details or chose to remain silent on them to protect the deceased.
There must be a lot more to this story.
You're right about the lack of completeness, but I've heard other lottery winners say that they quickly lost all their "friends" because everybody wants a piece of you and if you don't cough it up things turn ugly fast.
This reminds me of the West Virginia lottery winnder who was allegedly a practicing Christian. Several years after winning one of the big lotteries ($100+ million), he's gotten a few DUIs and has apparently made a second home of the local strip club.
Just what are the responsibilities of one from a poor family who achieves financial success? The pressure is always on that individual to "provide" for the rest of the family (which may also include distant relatives and friends). The more generous that individual is, the more that resentment is generated because is it never enough and some family members are going to always feel short-changed.
It's a no-win situation.
I happen to be in that situation myself. My wife and I are far from "rich" but we have achieved a level of financial success that far exceeds the rest of the family. It makes social situations somewhat awkward and we are often hit up for money by those family members less fortuate, or should I say, those family members who have made more mistakes in life and now are pleading with us to bail them out.
We are able to brush them off by telling them that we aren't as "rich" as we seem to be (and we aren't - we are just good at managing our money), but Lottery winners don't have that luxury. Everybody knows exactly how rich they are because the amount is published in all the papers.
Point is, I know exactly what this poor man went through. He was evidently trying so hard to be everything to everybody and he ended up pissing everybody off.
As soon as you gain the reputation of being a "soft-touch", they will suck you dry everytime. And instead of showing appreciation, they will actually tell others (behind your back) how little you gave them compared to everybody else.
During the course of my life, other family members have said to others how greedy and selfish we were because we didn't spot them that $5,000 "loan" or help them get out of that credit card trouble. But my wife and I are wise enough to know that they are actually the greedy and selfish ones. It's a shame that this man never gained the same wisdom.
Mee too! They would hear from me not the other way around. I would help family and friends to an extent. They would not starve or nothing like that, But buy them all houses/cars, etc.. I don't think so. I have too many kinfolk/in-laws for that.
I would suggest they play the lotto like I did.
"Exactly! Here in NC, stupid govenor Easley keeps trying to jam it down the people's throats, but we keep puking it back up (like we should).
Lotterys are nothing but legalized theft from the poor and ignorant."
That's funny. I thought one would have a choice whether to buy a lottery ticket. Is it not their "constitutional" right to be stoopid? We do alcohol and tobacco. Lotto should be a choice left to the people - not blocked from the ballot because politicians want to control how the stoopid spend.
JMO.
No, to me it sounded like he had run up debts that were going to eat up the cash flow.
People have said that if all the wealth were pooled and distributed equally, after some time, the same people would have what they had before.
Money flows from the gullible. As usual, I got my dose of Nigerian 419 spams this morning. Consider that town offical who not only fell for it, but emebezzled money to do it. If this person won the lottery, would they have had the money a few years thereafter?
Were I to win a lottery (Remote, as I do not buy tickets..) there would not be one new person in my life. No "New Friends". People for whom I was good enough before would be the only ones welcome. I already have lawyers and accountants.
Oh, it's not that I embrace the lottery - I don't. Neither do I embrace others, govm't included, telling me they know best how I should spend MY earnings - as long as I am not dependant on the taxpayer for support.
Just wanted to help clear that up...;-)
If anyone has ever had a death in the family....same thing happens...all the vultures come out for their piece of the pie.
I feel bad that he was so stressed that he felt he had no choice in life, but he should have thought about the people he was leaving behind (close family members who loved him for who he was, not what he won). They will never be the same. Suicide is not the answer.
That sickly sweet obsequious stuned-beeber smile they give you is enough to make you want to puke right from the gecko.
Suicide is one of the most selfish acts a person can carry out. While seemingly saving yourself the pain, you inflict it on countless others for life.
That is the truth!!
I have too many kinfolk/in-laws for that.
And we would quickly discover family and friends we never knew we had.
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