My oldest daughter had preeclampsia which eventually nearly killed her and her son. Some nurse told her that none of this would have happened if she hadn't smoked...ignoring new evidence that when preeclampsia runs in the family of one parent, even the father, the resulting pregnancy is also at higher risk.
My daughter, afraid for her son's life, really did not need this pseudo-scientific guilt laid on her by some moron proselytizing from pop-psych pulpit. Fior one thing, it raised her out of control blood pressure even more and caused more potential harm to the baby.
Since my daughter wasn't in any shape to do it, I let the twit have it with both barrels. I also told her doctor, a neonatal specialist. His position was that it's best to try to quit smoking while pregnant, but he never went beyond that sound and practical advice into Tinfoil Hat Land. He never let that nurse anywhere near my daughter again, either.
Thank goodness your daughter has a sensible doctor.
Your daughter's experience speaks exactly to my point about the fear mongering tactics being used against pregnant women. Rasing her blood pressure was not a smart move on the part of that nurse.
I was lucky in having a sensible doctor as well. she only mentioned smoking and drinking twice......the first time I saw her she was happy I stopped alcohol and caffeine consumption, and told me to cut back on smoking.
The next time she mentioned alcohol was when I was getting ready to attend my 25th HS reunion and she told me if my stomach could tolerate it I was more than welcome to have a glass or 2 of wine, preferably red. And I had never even mentioned alcohol, I only brought up the reunion because of the travel involved. I was about 8 months at that point.
The only other time she mentioned my smoking was the morning after my daughter was born, when she told me if I wanted to have a cigarette to call a nurse and have her take me out to the courtyard!