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It's my sister-in-law. Her doctor misdiagnosed her. She was told she just had normal aches and pains for a year old woman! After complaining for a year she finally did tests on her when she woke up paralyzed on her side. They discovered she had renal cancer and it had already spread to her lungs. Thankfully they were able to fix the paralysis but there was nothing they could do for her.

She's on chemo, busily losing her hair, thin as a rail in a wheel chair. She recently had 2 1/2 liters of fluid drained out of her lungs. It's so sad. I really didn't want my daughter to remember her like this.

We had seen her in April when first diagnosed with this. They gave her 3-6 months. Then she looked normal. My husband is insisting on this trip. I dread it. We never got along but in April we made peace.

She has issues ... a major one for her is an abortion her husband demanded years ago ... she is envious of me having a baby late in life ... her baby also would have been born late in life ... she is Chinese ... my husband is Chinese ... I am Caucasian ... she looks at my daughter, Sarah with many emotions ... it makes me very uncomfortable and worse yet she is still torturing her husband with this regret ... her husband regrets it and has apologized numerous times ... he was in tears when we saw him in April about this regret. She views me as stealing away her baby brother. She literally imagined that she was his mother. No kidding.

I hope she finds peace since things cannot be changed. I wish just my husband was making this trip down alone. Oh another thing ... she has always been a problem in our marriage - interfering, outspoken etc.etc.. It was so bad that we didn't invite her to our wedding. She would have spoiled the day ... so I am not looking forward to this for many reasons.

I just wanted to say goodbye on a peaceful note which I did in April and not stir up things with my daughter etc.. She is a bitter woman. I feel sorry for her but there is nothing I can do to change her disappointments in life.

My husband's family scares me. His other sister died at age 46 from Non Hodgkins Lymphoma and pancreatic cancer. This was my daughter's Godmother. His parents died in their 50's of cancer. One by one they are dying early in life.