Begs the question - what if He wants the kid you may adopt to grow up without parents......
My wife was scarred by appendectomy when she was 16 - after 16 years of marriage we decided to try IVF - We have a son due in October.
Anyone that spouts the "turn your life over to God's will" crap is a complete hypocrite unless they have also decided to forgo ANy MEDICAL TREATMENT FOR ANY REASON.
That splinter that will infect and perhaps cause you to lose your finger - God's will - that radiation treatment for cancer - uh-oh - you would be subverting God's will, Your adopted kid gets a fever and dies without treatment because it was God's will - oh well - it must be divine intervention.
MY belief - it is God's will that we have such marvelous medical techniques that preserve life.
God gave us the tools (sperm and egg) to perform IVF - IVF is not creating life by any intellectual view - it is merely assisting life. Just like EVERY other medical procedure.
Your argument about wasting fertilized eggs is meritless because God wastes eggs and sperm every day by design. Where is your outrage about that?
And I am Catholic and I do disagree with MAN's perspective on this issue. I believe God loves IVF. To question the love and commitment between my wife and I because we could not concieve naturally is true evil.
An interesting answer to my question since I have never condemned IVF. Basically, if I understand you, the answer you have given me is "because I can." What if your IVF kid needs a transplant. According to your logic, you can just clone him and use the other child for spare body parts, because you can because we "have such marvelous medical techniques to preserve life." Of course, that is as ridiculous as you stating that I am questioning you and your wifes' commitment.
What I am understanding about your non-answer is that your overwhelming desire for IVF comes into the realm of being able to say you possess a child of your very own--who has your eyes, your wifes' smile, etc. If that is the case, let me remind you that ALL children are on "loan", so to speak, as my sister was reminded when her daughter died at a young age.
That being said, let me wish you and your wife the very best and much happiness with your new addition.