I hope I meet one of those guys LOL
Oh they exist. You are more likely to get them in the suburbs than the direct city of New York though IMO.
Do you have a hobby or church where you can join some social gathering?
Churches has groups within and events.
No good guys in your church, then go to the next church of your faith near you and look there. Spread out your hunting area!
I play tennis, I can meet women while playing tennis at a tennis club.
You might be a bowler, golfer, tennis player or you can meet guys at Ballys or 24 hour fitness centers.
You could go sit in sports bars during football season with girlfriends as a fan of football and you will meet easy going guys there. As a bonus, you will be able to verify their typical drinking habits before hand in person and will know their self control.
Lots of inventive ways to meet people.
Go back to college and take a class in something where guys will be. Computer repair and maintenance!!!!