[ccmay]

there can be no doubt that the deep marital dissatisfaction among ignored and neglected wives has led to a startling explosion of women who believe that indulging their right to feel sexy in another man's arms is an acceptable solution to an unsatisfying relationship.

Let me point out that there are a number of women who don't seem to WANT to feel sexy in their husbands' arms, much less anyone else's. Women are fools if they think they can cut their men off from sexual intimacy for months at a time, and not run the risk of them looking elsewhere. You can say anything you want about what men SHOULD do in such a case, but it's like spitting in the wind, given the power of the male sexual drive.

-ccm

[LearnsFromMistakes]

Women are fools if they think they can cut their men off from sexual intimacy for months at a time, and not run the risk of them looking elsewhere...the power of the male sexual drive

sex is a desire, not a need. In marriage it is also a right, but it comes with a lot of responsibility. 'Months at a time' or not, 'looking elsewhere' is wrong.

[sinkspur]

Women are fools if they think they can cut their men off from sexual intimacy for months at a time, and not run the risk of them looking elsewhere. You can say anything you want about what men SHOULD do in such a case, but it's like spitting in the wind, given the power of the male sexual drive.

Dr. Laura makes that point often. She chastises women who, after having their first child, seem to lose interest in sex. "Why should he stop being a man because YOU decide he's done his duty, fathered a child, and he can now step to the back of the bus?" She blames women for the break-up of marriages after children come along because women hide behind their children to stop being the wives their husbands married.

Men should certainly not be looking elsewhere, but it should surprise no one that they do, if their women try to turn them into monks.