Posted on 07/15/2004 5:45:22 AM PDT by SJackson
Single women who have affairs with married men should be held accountable.
Monica Lewinsky has finally apologized – but to the wrong party. In a startling letter to Liz Smith of the New York Post highlighting her desire to take responsibility for her actions in having had an affair with the president, she writes that she took the opportunity in a recent television interview "to apologize to former president Clinton for having betrayed his trust by confiding in my friend Linda Tripp. It's an apology he was owed and one I wasn't sure had been given."
Talk about weird. Here you have a single woman who had an affair with a married man. But rather than apologize to the man's wife for having relations with her husband and causing her terrific pain, she apologizes to her former lover for betraying their secret. But then, single women who have affairs with married men are rarely held accountable. It's always the men that we blame while the women get off the hook.
To be sure, a lying and cheating husband is a greater offender than the single woman he cheated with because it is he who breaks his marital vows and sins against the woman who took his last name and bore his children. Married men who are unfaithful lack gratitude, display obscene selfishness, and offend the Creator who, in His infinite kindness, provided them with a life-long companion to mitigate their loneliness and provide erotic excitement.
Fair enough. But why should single women who have affairs with married man be treated as neutral parties who have done little wrong? Why indeed, in the sad Clinton-Lewinsky scandal, was all the opprobrium heaped on Bill and almost none on Monica? Why do single women who are home-wreckers get a pass?
If Monica Lewinsky were to have stolen Hillary Clinton's watch and gotten caught, surely she would have been condemned as a thief. And had she broken into the White House in the middle of the night and kidnapped Chelsea, she would have been hated as a kidnapper. But when she took away a woman's husband by trespassing the deepest intimacy which is the exclusive domain of a wife, she was made into an international celebrity and given an apparel line and at TV hosting job to boot.
America, it seems, is becoming a nation of adulterers. In my 2002 book Kosher Adultery, I charted the rapid growth in extramarital liaisons over the past few decades with the most startling increase being, surprisingly, among married women. Indeed, Newsweek magazine published a revealing cover story just last week about the shocking rise in the number of wives who are taking lovers and betraying their marriages.
A few years ago Cosmopolitan magazine went even further in asserting that married women are having more affairs than their husbands. Even if this is an exaggeration, there can be no doubt that the deep marital dissatisfaction among ignored and neglected wives has led to a startling explosion of women who believe that indulging their right to feel sexy in another man's arms is an acceptable solution to an unsatisfying relationship.
I wrote Kosher Adultery to demonstrate to married couples how the erotic sinfulness and steamy lust of adultery could be transferred into the legal institution of marriage. My desire was to teach husbands how to make their wives into their mistresses and turn their marriages into an affair.
No doubt, making marriages more passionate is a key ingredient in curbing the growing culture of infidelity. But there can be no substitute for the critical reproach that is mandatory in holding people accountable when they cheat on their spouses. And that means meting out significant social censure on the spouse who cheats and the partner they cheat with.
FAR FROM adultery being something benign – "It was just sex, honey; I didn't love her" – to be cheated on by one's spouse is one of the most painful and agonizing experiences a man or woman can ever endure, and we dare not trivialize it. In one study, a group of women described the trauma of discovering that their husbands had found a mistress akin to being present at their own funerals. When your husband replaces your body with that of another woman, it makes you feel like you're a corpse. You married this man because he made you feel special. Now, not only are you plain, you're non-existent. You've been replaced by someone more desirable.
I found it outrageous and immoral when so many people asserted that Hillary Clinton experienced no anguish in the Monica Lewinsky scandal because she and Bill "had an understanding." Here was a case of a wife's being robbed not only of her husband but of her legitimate right to experience pain. Dehumanizing her through speculation as to her supposed reptilian nature and her inability to feel aggrieved by a philandering husband was downright criminal, especially when many who were making the allegations claimed to be defenders of the institution of marriage.
And here we go again, with Lewinsky apologizing to Bill while offering no apology to the aggrieved spouse.
Some of my friends tell me that I am wrong to be so hard on Monica. They point out that single women who have affairs with married men are the ones left with a broken heart when the affair ends.
What an absurd argument. Just ask any of the women whose husbands cheated on them, and they will tell you that it was one of the most painful and humiliating experiences of their lives. The pain of an unhappy marriage is never assuaged by the momentary pleasures of a becoming a lying rogue.
Monica did not "take" Bill. He was gone long before she ever came along. She was just one of his little trophies. One of many, many trophies. Yes she bears some responsibility, but we must remember that she was very young and easily impressed by the powerful. Stupid too.
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Fat Chick Still In Denial, Still Fat, But Without Hope of a Lasting Relationship with Another Man Because She's a Fat Chick Still In Denial!
Stop the press! Dog bites man....
I think the technical term is, "fornicator".
Cordially,
IIRC Monica did offer an apology to Chelsea and Hillary during the Baba Wawa interview some years ago now.
Because she was the wife, the mother of Bill's daughter, and, regardless of anything that is none of your business, Monica did harm to the marriage and the family.
I'm not talking about the article. i'm talking about the discussion of these two.Period. Ofcourse it's adultry and offensive. i just get tired of people (liberal media) never calling it what it is. I have no problem with the JP. In fact I like it.
Click through to "Forum", then "Forum Link", then "Rants".
Monica apologizes to Bill and Hillary. At least she should.
wow
This is a truly devastating assessment of Hillary as a person.
Thanks for posting it.
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