[Lady Eileen]

Maybe the pastor cannot handle a woman who actually wants sex for the sake of sex and not because it is her 'duty'.

Many people suffer from the modern misconception that duty undermines desire in sex. Quite the contrary. In fact, duty in marriage legitimizes and honors the expression of sexual desire.

[Bella_Bru]

In Judasim it's the husbands duty.

Not there should be any duty involved at all. If you are having sex because you feel 'commanded' to, you have problems.