[Bella_Bru]

In Judasim it's the husbands duty.

Not there should be any duty involved at all. If you are having sex because you feel 'commanded' to, you have problems.

[MEGoody]

"Not there should be any duty involved at all."

By 'duty,' it means you cannot withhold yourself from your husband for 5 years due to a 'headache.' That doesn't mean you can't occassionally be too tired or not in the mood. It does mean you can't use sex to manipulate or punish.