If I've ever had a slightly jealous bit about my fellow females -- it's this ability of many of them to "cry on whim or demand". I've never had this skill. Ok. I guess I've never had the desire to learn this skill. Okay. Brass tacks. It probably didn't work on my parents when I was little. So, I didn't see it as a viable or productive skill. It really works? Egads, maybe I should join a workshop er somethin..
No, don't go there. Actually, the minute it dawned on me that I was following a pattern shown to me by other females in the family -- I ditched it.
One reason I have to be really careful NOT to do this is my husband is such a happy-go-lucky guy that he sometimes will overlook any signals or complaints about our relationship or some behavior of his unless there ARE tears -- then I have his attention. So I could really manipulate him if I wanted to -- but I DON'T want to. Now, if I cry about something and I'm really upset, that's okay, I just can't do it in a premeditated manner.
We've been married so long, though, (we hope to celebrate our 30th anniversary at W's second innauguration) that we almost have the same thoughts at the same time.