[Melas]

I've seen it first hand. As a matter of fact, a good friend from childhood has 3 siblings who are successful, kind, and caring people like himself, but there is a 5th sib who's been in and out of jail since he was a juvenile.

Great parents. No one knows why their one child out of 5 went wrong. They did the same thing 5 times, and failed once. Not their fault.

[Quix]

I think it's a GREAT MISTAKE to treat all siblings

EQUALLY.

CHILDREN ARE DIFFERENT. Certainly one has to be fair. But also, one has to teach that life is not particularly fair--deal with it.

In any case, some children require 2-5 times what maybe all the rest of the children required put together.

I can say that theoretically I could agree that such COULD happen.

I just KNOW that personally, in observing more than 5,000 families/children at significantly close range, I HAVE NEVER seen it such that the parents REALLY DID even mostly ALL THEY COULD HAVE DONE to bond, connect, train the child.