You may not be aware of a study of all the studies of child rearing practices some 25-35 years ago.
They compared all the variables they could. Socio-economic status; discipline styles--authoritarian, authoritative, laissez faire (sp); consensus; democratic etc.; number of children; geographic areas; rural, city; education levels; IQ etc.
There was ONE variable which accounted for more than 80% of the varience.
The criteria of measure used over the longitudinal studies was:
As adults, did the children
1) stay off welfare
2) stay productively employed
3) stay married
4) stay out of trouble with the law
That was defined as success as an adult.
Can you guess what that one variable was?
Whether or not the child
FELT
loved.
NOT: WAS the child loved--but
DID THE CHILD *******FEEL******* LOVED.
That tends to be a huge difference in some situations.
That tends to be a huge difference in some situations.
Yes, but making a child 'feel' loved isn't always easy, or even possible.