[supercat]

DID THE CHILD *******FEEL******* LOVED.

That tends to be a huge difference in some situations.

Yes, but making a child 'feel' loved isn't always easy, or even possible.

[Quix]

i AGREE

that given some temperaments, it is sometimes

NOT EASY.

I disagree that it's not POSSIBLE.

The problem is, parents are not willing to pay the price

AND do not start earnestly enough, selfLESSly enough to get the child STARTED in their first awarenesses on that track.

I have seen incredibly difficult kids who even late in the game could have been turned from a life of disaster

IF

the parents had been

WILLING

to pay the price.

If they had been willing the first months of life, the price would not have been near so steep, no matter how difficult. AND IT WOULD HAVE BEEN MUCH EASIER; MUCH *MORE* POSSIBLE.

[Quix]

I will also assert:

PARENTS WILL PAY THE PRICE

sooner or later

. . . in earnest, creative, persistent, tireless, healthy, intense LOVING actions

OR

in GRIEF, LAWYER'S BILLS, HOURS LOST IN COURT, SLEEPLESS NIGHTS, LIABILITIES, INSURANCE RATES . . .

It's a delusion of satan that one can raise kids on the cheap and with cheap words of love and things instead of actions of love.