My heart goes out to you! And it doesn't even help much to know that you're doing the right thing, does it? I had a MUCH easier time staying at home when I was with a community of other at home moms( Navy Housing). I don't know where you can find that anymore.
We all know that the important thing is to be busy and connected and get out of the house sometimes. But with two preschoolers, it seems like SUCH a huge effort, that it's easier to just forget it.
I wish I had answers for you. I'm sorry that I don't. But if you lived in Kentucky, I'd come and hang out with you! I know how lonely it can be.
The problem I have come across a lot of time isn't the daytime hours. It's evenings and weekends. Of course, husbands work hard all day and should be able to relax when they get home, but sometimes a stay at home mom wants to get out. Even worse is that if he wants to go out and do something, but kids aren't allowed it's no problem. After all, there is always the built-in babysitter. In my more upset times I sometimes do feel like nothing more than a glorified babysitter.