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Denied a family, he left priesthood
Cincinnati Enquirer ^ | May 02, 2004 | Dan Horn

Posted on 05/02/2004 5:53:26 PM PDT by Investment Biker

Savio Russo loved being a priest.

The Cincinnati man taught high school, counseled the sick and presided over baptisms, funerals and weddings.

But after 14 years, he felt something was missing. "It was a pretty exciting life," Russo, 59, says today. "But it was lonely."

He blames that loneliness on the celibacy required of priests, a rule that Russo says ultimately drove him from the priesthood. Now married with four children, he regrets that his desire for a family meant he could no longer be a priest.

Questions about celibacy are being raised as U.S. Catholics struggle with a severe priest shortage.

"How do you get more priests? Go to optional celibacy," says Dean Hoge, author of Evolving Visions of the Priesthood. "The priest shortage would be over."

A survey for Hoge's book found that 71 percent of lay Catholics and 53 percent of diocesan priests support optional celibacy.

But the church is not a democracy, and rewriting rules that have been in place for 800 years is no easy task. Any change in the celibacy rule would require the approval of the Vatican, which has shown little support for that move.

The pope believes a priest can best serve his flock if he is solely devoted to his church, and not distracted by demands of family life.

The archdiocese does have one married priest - the Rev. Gregory Lockwood, a former Lutheran minister. The church accepts ministers who convert from other faiths, even if they are married at the time.

"I'm glad they let me work, but I have a very special spouse," says Lockwood, who also has five kids. He's wary of optional celibacy because the priesthood is hard on families. "People really underestimate how much people depend on you," he says.

Other problems include the difficulty of supporting a family on a priest's $20,000 salary, the prospect of priests getting divorced and the pitfalls of transferring entire families to new parish assignments.

"It's one thing to move a priest from Cincinnati to Wapakoneta. It's another to move a priest, a wife and four kids to Wapakoneta," Archbishop Daniel Pilarczyk says. "Many see ordained married men as a quick fix. It's not quick, and I'm not sure it's a fix."

Supporters of optional celibacy say Americans are transferred and juggle low-paying jobs all the time.

They believe that ending the celibacy rule would draw thousands more prospective priests to U.S. seminaries, where enrollments have dropped from 6,600 to 3,400 over the past 30 years.

"We are unnecessarily restricting the priesthood, and that's not serving the church well," says Sister Christine Schenk, director of the reform group, FutureChurch.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; US: Kentucky; US: Ohio
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To: sinkspur
He ought to be allowed to celebrate Mass, to help out our harried clerical staff.

Now, now. Easy. We know where you are going with that :-).

All in the name of discipline. Stoke of a pen in the hand bearing the right kind of ring could change everything. But they won't unless things get really dire, and I guess overworked priests and priestless parishes and all the other messes aren't dire enough.

Time will tell. They may have to cave before it's over. If enough people screamed loudly enough, it probably could be made to happen. But people like the mystique of a celibate priesthood, I guess. I did, too, until I saw the downside.

Actually, if there were plenty of quality, celibate priests, I'd say leave well enough alone. But . . .

61 posted on 05/02/2004 8:51:05 PM PDT by Aliska
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To: Aliska
But people like the mystique of a celibate priesthood, I guess. I did, too, until I saw the downside.

I don't think most Catholics would care, until they were confronted with the fact they had to provide a living wage to a priest's family.

62 posted on 05/02/2004 9:11:14 PM PDT by sinkspur (Adopt a dog or a cat from an animal shelter! It will save one life, and may save two.)
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To: sinkspur
20,000 men, mostly married, have been ordained since 1980, in the United States.

That's one too many.

63 posted on 05/02/2004 9:22:36 PM PDT by A.A. Cunningham
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To: sinkspur
until they were confronted with the fact they had to provide a living wage to a priest's family.

It has never been a problem for most protestant churches, but then they don't have so many schools to run and extra buildings to keep up.

64 posted on 05/02/2004 9:24:21 PM PDT by Aliska
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To: A.A. Cunningham
Cunningham, perhaps you might consider some form of service to the Church.

It would complement your service to your country.

65 posted on 05/02/2004 9:24:41 PM PDT by sinkspur (Adopt a dog or a cat from an animal shelter! It will save one life, and may save two.)
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To: Aliska
It has never been a problem for most protestant churches, but then they don't have so many schools to run and extra buildings to keep up.

Catholics are accustomed to have clerics and religious who work for below poverty wages.

Protestants have to pay up, or get no services.

Catholics will be in the same predicament, not too many years hence.

66 posted on 05/02/2004 9:26:37 PM PDT by sinkspur (Adopt a dog or a cat from an animal shelter! It will save one life, and may save two.)
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To: DameAutour
The fact that sexual abusers WERE moved around WAS an abuse. There's no theological basis for that practice. It was just cowardice and corruption that caused those coverups.

The priest who married and left the active ministry is still ONTOLOGICALLY a priest. And he can still hear the confession and absolve a person who is in danger of death. In fact, if I am dying, I could tell the Pope to leave the room, and ask an "ex-priest" to hear my last confession. But other than that one case, an "ex-priest" is not allowed to carry out any other priestly function.

67 posted on 05/02/2004 9:33:40 PM PDT by Arthur McGowan
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To: MissAmericanPie
The Catholic Church flies in the face of scriptures regarding the type of leader a flock is suppose to have. A man of good reputation, married to one wife, with his children under control.

Incorrect. St.Paul's instructions to St. Timothy were not absolute in that only married men should be selected, quite the contrary. Your failure to mention the teaching of Jesus Christ Himself in Luke 18:28-30, Matthew 19:12, 27-30 and the importance of the priesthood of Melchisedech, from the Old Testament, with regard to the Catholic Priesthood proves that you don't know what you're talking about.

68 posted on 05/02/2004 9:39:55 PM PDT by A.A. Cunningham
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To: A.A. Cunningham
Let him accept it who can accept it.
69 posted on 05/02/2004 9:42:57 PM PDT by sinkspur (Adopt a dog or a cat from an animal shelter! It will save one life, and may save two.)
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To: sinkspur
which population has no problem with the marital status of these men,

You have the nasty habit of leading some people on this forum, who aren't familiar with your modus operandi, into thinking that you speak for all Catholics in this country, you don't.

70 posted on 05/02/2004 9:46:05 PM PDT by A.A. Cunningham
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To: A.A. Cunningham
Well, Cunningham, the latest stats indicate that 71% of Catholics feel that a married priesthood would be a good thing.

I certainly don't speak for the Catholic population of this country, but, if you don't think the population of this country would accept married priests, you aren't paying attention.

71 posted on 05/02/2004 9:48:45 PM PDT by sinkspur (Adopt a dog or a cat from an animal shelter! It will save one life, and may save two.)
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To: A.A. Cunningham
Challenge to you, Cunnigham:

Join me in the diaconate.

We could use a determined, dedicated man like you.

72 posted on 05/02/2004 9:50:44 PM PDT by sinkspur (Adopt a dog or a cat from an animal shelter! It will save one life, and may save two.)
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To: DameAutour
But it seems like a matter of principle that Catholic priests can't marry. Yet you are saying that some Catholic priests can marry?

It's a matter of Scripture. Celibacy is a higher calling praised by both Christ and St. Paul.

Catholic Priests cannot marry and remain active priests. The Pope has granted dispensations to a small number of married Protestant ministers who have converted to Catholicism and sought ordination in the Latin Rite. In the Eastern Rite married men can be ordained as priests but once ordained a single priest may not then get married. Bishops in the Eastern Rite are selected exclusively from celibates.

73 posted on 05/02/2004 9:57:33 PM PDT by A.A. Cunningham
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To: A.A. Cunningham
The Pope has granted dispensations to a small number of married Protestant ministers who have converted to Catholicism and sought ordination in the Latin Rite.

800 and counting.

And, the Anglican Dispensation only highlights the fact that married men can function effectively as priests in the Latin Rite of the Catholic Church.

Did you know that not a single one of these men has left the Catholic priesthood, nor has a single one of them divorced? And that's over 20 years while this dispensation has been in effect.

OH, and none of them have been implicated in the sexual abuse fiasco.

74 posted on 05/02/2004 10:05:01 PM PDT by sinkspur (Adopt a dog or a cat from an animal shelter! It will save one life, and may save two.)
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To: sinkspur
Perhaps you should consider obedience, Sinkspur. Although in your case it's probably much too late.
75 posted on 05/02/2004 10:05:18 PM PDT by A.A. Cunningham
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To: A.A. Cunningham
Perhaps you should consider obedience, Sinkspur.

Perhaps you could be bit more clear. And, a bit less hostile.

76 posted on 05/02/2004 10:07:32 PM PDT by sinkspur (Adopt a dog or a cat from an animal shelter! It will save one life, and may save two.)
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To: sinkspur
And we both know that you couldn't accept it. You allowed your libido to control you and you failed.
77 posted on 05/02/2004 10:07:47 PM PDT by A.A. Cunningham
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To: A.A. Cunningham
So, I take your last post as a "no" to some form of service to the Church?

That's a waste. Don't bury your talents, man.

78 posted on 05/02/2004 10:08:51 PM PDT by sinkspur (Adopt a dog or a cat from an animal shelter! It will save one life, and may save two.)
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To: A.A. Cunningham
First, Peter's wife remained with him and is mentioned several times. There is a big difference in the kind of duty Peter preformed, being crusified, than an ordinary preacher performs today. If a married preacher felt the calling to leave his family and go teach in the Spice Islands, risking his life, then he should go, sure. But today, as yet, no one faces a cross for preaching the word as in Peter's time.

If a man can remain single and serve as a preacher fine, if he can accept it. But it is beyond rediculous and against God's will, for a church, in failing to allow married priests, to replace that shortage with homosexuals who bogger little boys, all in order to have enough priests to cover the shortage created by their own, not God's, demand that all priests be single.

The homosexual abomination and influence allowed to go on for decades by the Church is really inexcusable and a far worse situation than allowing normal men, married men, to serve in a priestly capacity.
79 posted on 05/02/2004 10:09:32 PM PDT by MissAmericanPie
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To: A.A. Cunningham
And we both know that you couldn't accept it. You allowed your libido to control you and you failed.

No. But, at least I gave it a shot. For seven years.

Yet, I'm serving the Church as a deacon, and you're carping.

That's not failure, on my part.

80 posted on 05/02/2004 10:12:06 PM PDT by sinkspur (Adopt a dog or a cat from an animal shelter! It will save one life, and may save two.)
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