Geez, SoCal Pubbie, you could put those words right into the mouth of King George III.
It it were not for the English colonies in America "sending an ill-equipped army of old men, women, and children to fight for their rebellion" and to be lead by Southern commanders in 1776, we would now be Canadians.
"Let me understand this. YOU are proud your ancestors sent an ill-equipped army, old men, women, and children to fight for their rebellion? You southrens get more pathetic all the time. The beaming parents of Palestinian suicide bombers have nothing on you."
"I cannot tell a lie, Your Majesty. Yes, the Southerners are proud that thier ancestors sent an ill-equipped army, old men, women, and children to fight for their rebellion."
Your question is, typically, indicative of many a Yankee understanding.
While Southern armies were fighting legitimate battles along fronts against more well-equipped troops, behind the lines of battle where only old men, women, and children were at their least defenses, Yankees raped and pillaged everything they could and burned and destroyed what they couldn't take.
Yes, I'm proud they fought as strongly as they could against a foe like Sherman and his thug "army".