Doing what one wants to do is not always possible. The wife & children of a controlling jerk in that society lose their innocence at an early age, but if they would choose being elsewhere & they are there because they have no other choice, I'd have them in the catagory of an innocent.
As a general statement I would agree. However, the wish to live, and to have your children live, is a special case.
Unless she is handcuffed to the sandmaggot killer she has made a conscious choice to stay. And to die.