What to Do When Women Break Up With You.

mensnewsdaily.com ^ | 1/10/04 | Bernard Chapin

[LisaMalia]

A female Freeper declared that the trend was that older women are seeking younger men these days, I simply agreed with her

Actually, you did more than agree with that assumption. You chose to make a really disrespectful remark on the subject.

[VOA]

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[IDontLikeToPayTaxes]

Actually, you did more than agree with that assumption. You chose to make a really disrespectful remark on the subject.

Another poster asked me to elaborate. The remark wasn't disrespectful, it's pretty much the truth.

[VOA]

Cry on your pillow, punch the wall, or scream on the veranda, just make sure you do it after she’s gone.

Medical/Safety Alert to male readers of this column!

About a decade ago, Esquire Magazine had a short article that (IIRC) was
entitled "Hitting The Wall".

It was a cute (and slightly painful) article about the (generally) testosterone-driven
need to punch a wall.
According to the article, if you experience a common occurence of "hitting the wall"
you run a high risk of appearing at the local emergency room with a broken bone in your hand (behind the middle finger, IIRC).
This is common enough that a nurse and/or doctor is likely to ask you
"So, was this about your girlfriend or wife?"

Although the pain of a broken hand bone and the cost of a medical bill and recuperation
might distract you from the machinations of that perfidious wench...
I do counsel self-control.

Given my experiences in the dating game with TODAY'S American women, I do have
some recommendations.
1. Follow the advice in the article.
2. Get a wife from Japan or The Phillipines or some other foreign destination.
Preferably thorough a trusted intermediary in your faith community.

That sub-sector of my social community is the only one with a 100% "still married" rate
after 10 years of matrimony.

[VOA]

He's still my quiet giant, but now, when I primp and preen, he's wise enough to tell
me how desirable I am, and I'm happy to show him how wonderful I think he is.

Great story. And I'm jealously happy for the two of you.

It must be a "failure to communicate"...but some women don't understand a
certain standard that some men hold for "feminine beauty".

Advice to the ladies:
I guess I put it this way: it's the guy who keeps coming around when a lady
ISN'T in the "primp and preen" mode that she should pay attention to.

Advice to the guys:
When she does "primp and preen", it's OK to stare...but for Chri-sakes,
at least mutter an acknowledgement that you've noticed (and are stunned by) the upgrade.
To put it in undersatandable male terms...let her know you're impressed with
the "standard model", and wiped out by the upgrade.


Forgive my Oklahoma farm roots...but I often put my idiosyncratic standard for
feminine beauty this way
"she'd look good to me right after she slopped the hogs".

[Mr Rogers]

Do NOT be like one guy I knew who put his fist through a window - 32 stiches & he was still alone.

BTW - Filipina wife, we'll be 17 years married on the 17th.

[SauronOfMordor]

Guys don't have to put forth much effort to get in their pants, because for the most part, older women are desparate.

I wouldn't say "desperate", more like "reality has set in". Younger women can have fantasies of Prince Charming showing up (or in the modern versions of the story, like "Pretty Woman", having a billionaire investor suddenly recognise their irresistable charms).

Older women have to face reality: if Prince Charming hasn't shown up by 30 (much less 40), it's time to select your best deal from the pool of people who actually have an interest in you.

[SauronOfMordor]

Being Dumped... is the worst thing known to Man.

Frankly, I think getting hit in the belly with a couple of rounds of .223 has it beat on the scale of "bad things to happen to you", but in terms of what the average middle-class guy encounters in the US, it's fairly high up

[SauronOfMordor]

A female Freeper declared that the trend was that older women are seeking younger men these days, I simply agreed with her.

When I was 24 I had a girlfriend who was 39. It was fun for a while: she wanted sex, she wanted it often, and her biological clock had already gotten disconnected so she wasn't pestering me about "where is this relationship going?" -- we were there to have some fun for a while.

At the time, the women I knew in the 20-24 age bracket were looking for guys older and more financially secure than me, so it was a good change of pace

[AlbionGirl]

It's a 'good piece', but I think the guy overestimates a woman's desire to not be seen as a sex object. If the woman is secure, she'll walk away thinking, 'man, he really did love me', 'he's going to be in agony for weeks to come.'

A lot of women know that sex for many men is another manifestation of their love. I don't think men are much different from women in this regard. A one night stand is very different thing, but for a lot of men who are in love, the sex is 10 times better, and as Percy Sledge says 'he can't hold no other girl.'

A woman always knows when a man is head over heels for her, it's nearly impossible for him to hide. If it were me, and some guy said that while I was breaking up with him, I'd see right through it. That being said though, I would admire his unwillingness to let it crush him. And might walk away second guessing my deicison.

[SauronOfMordor]

Advice to the ladies: I guess I put it this way: it's the guy who keeps coming around when a lady ISN'T in the "primp and preen" mode that she should pay attention to.

Put another way: I (and many guys like me) are more interested in how a woman makes us feel, than in how well she's made up. A woman who's fun to be with, and displays an interest in keeping her guy happy, is much better company than a Victoria's Secret model who's a neurotic drama queen.

One friend HAD to marry beauty. An insecure, neurotic woman (but very cute), she decided she was a goddess that he must worship. After a few years in Hell, he's getting his divorce at the end of the month.

[IDontLikeToPayTaxes]

I agree with everything you just said :)

[stands2reason]

He knows I won't ever divorce him, though he's not too sure I won't end up killing him.

[VOA]

Put another way: I (and many guys like me) are more interested in how a woman makes
us feel, than in how well she's made up. A woman who's fun to be with, and displays
an interest in keeping her guy happy, is much better company than a Victoria's
Secret model who's a neurotic drama queen.

You said it better than I did.

It's kind of sad. Somewhere out there are probably four women, "native-born" Americans
that are wondering why they are single or unhappily married...
because they wouldn't give the time of day to my buddies who
"outsourced" for wives in their search for good-decent marriages.

I'm not saying the wife-shoppin' overseas is a panacea...but from my experience,
looking for one VIA a faith community sure has a better batting average than
the domestic/local set-ups.

[DooDahhhh]

Obviously, you haven't met any hot 50 year olds : )

[NYC GOP Chick]

Nice dress. You sure do have a purty mouth, too.

[John Beresford Tipton]

"Did he mean, "bawling"?"

Naw, just getting a fast start on the makeup sex.

[IDontLikeToPayTaxes]

Obviously, you haven't met any hot 50 year olds : )

Well, I've met one. I would call her "easy" over "hot", but I guess if I was drunk enough, I'd hit it. :)

[IDontLikeToPayTaxes]

Put another way: I (and many guys like me) are more interested in how a woman makes us feel, than in how well she's made up. A woman who's fun to be with, and displays an interest in keeping her guy happy, is much better company than a Victoria's Secret model who's a neurotic drama queen.

You sir, are very wise. Everything you said is correct.

I've actually dated a Victoria Secrets model before. The sex was amazing. I really can't stress that enough. The sex was amazing. However, the girl was so dumb I could barely have a conversation.

But then again, it was a "relationship" with sex I'll never forget, and I can always brag about dating a Victoria Secrets model. :)

Would I do it again? Bet your ass I would !

[Woahhs]

Put still another way: how much of what she'll "do" for her man would she do anyway?