[chris1]

Actually, in these cases my purpose of going to stop and shop was solely for the flowers because the flower shop was closed. Anyway, it just soured me to the whole thing.

[hopespringseternal]

My wife is the world's worst gift giver. She waits until the last minute, asks me what I want, then gives me that. If I give her a list, I get the most mundane, easily obtainable item on the list. I almost always know exactly what I am getting for any special occasion, and when I don't I am underwhelmed anyway. But I know she tries, and I credit her for her intentions and not the result.

On the other hand, I always surprise her with something she never expected. Something she never expected to get but I knew she really wanted.

For all the pop culture attitude that men are boars, selfish, unfeeling, unsensitive oafs clumsily falling all over the woman's feelings, expectations, and intimate parts, I have found exactly the opposite to be the case in almost all the relationships I have seen.

Most of the men I know truly are chivalrous, and their efforts are met with the same disdain as yours and almost never reciprocated.

In our culture, women are taught to be self-centered and men are taught to feed that monster in the vain belief that it can be satisfied. For all the platitudes and truisms bandied about, the real truth is that men make do and do without while showering their wives with every blessing they can muster. And their reward is usually disdain and neglect.

[Dianna]

Actually, in these cases my purpose of going to stop and shop was solely for the flowers because the flower shop was closed. Anyway, it just soured me to the whole thing.

I understand. Your girlfriend is just mean. Sorry.