[texasflower]

I am so very sorry for the loss of your friend and the injury to his girlfriend. His family and hers will need lots of support. My prayers are with them and with you.

I am concerned about some of the things you are saying about yourself. You must be a very good person to care so deeply for a friend. Please keep in mind as you are going through your grief process that you are important and well loved by God, just as your friend was.

Please, if you start to feel that you want to hurt yourself, come back on line and let us help you.

[cherry]

THE question about God...why he doesn't intervene in life and save all the good people and punish the bad.....

I can't figure it out either.....I know that God just let's life go on the way its going to go, good or bad, but I still pray at football games, thinking HE will make that field goal go thru the uprights....

[Bogey78O]

My uncle was 41 as well when his heart gave out this Tuesday. He was just sitting down in his chair at his home when he just gasped and died instantly. He was an honest hardworking guy who never sought trouble from anyone.

The wake was tonight. There were over 400 people signed into the guest book.

It just happens and it's not God trying to make a point. It's just God keeping the world spinning and letting what happens happen.

[Skywalk]

I'm sorry for your loss, but you cannot get down on yourself.

You don't know yet what you have to offer, perhaps, but there is value. Your time here isn't finished, but also remember that fleeting is the glory of the world. For you and me life is not promised, tomorrow may never come.

So live while you can, and live well. Remain honorable. Love, love until it pains you. Improve your own life, improve your character and touch those around you similarly.

That's the best way to exist, as we merely tarry here several decades before leaving this Vale of Tears.

[farmfriend]

Counseling might not be a bad idea at this point.

[bootless]

I am so, SO sorry to hear this. Please know that you are in my sincere prayers. And of course, your dear friend and his girlfriend will be in my prayers as well... God bless you.

[alameda]

I'm so sorry for your great loss and pray peace be with your friend and his family.

[cmsgop]

I'm Very Sorry,Take Care.....

[pbear8]

Everything that you are feeling is normal for the state of shock that anyone experiencing the death of a 'brother' would feel. You have a deep, wrenching pain because someone you love has been taken, you can't think straight and can hardly breathe. Your pain is real and understandable.

Your friend, your 'brother', wants what is best for you, this you will know in time. Spend time talking about him and thinking about the good times with his parents. You are their son now. This is how you will heal the hole in your heart.

Do his memory great honor. Whenever you do an act of kindness, however small for someone else, think that you are doing it for your friend. That is what he wants.

He had a great life, sadly it was short, but he lived more in his 41 years than many others do with more time. Be glad for the years that you had him. Remember him always.

Slowly, by the Grace of God, you will be able a feel OK and go on.

In paradisum deducant te angeli,
in tuo adventu suscipiuant te martyres.
Chorus angelorum te suscipiat,
et com Lazaro quondam paupere
aeternam habeas requiem.

[Pegita]

Heavenly Father, we return to give You thanks that in Your mercy, You have left so many things unanswered for us now, but all will be plain one glorious day. Bind up fourdeuce's broken heart, I pray, for his friend meant so much ... surround the grieving parents and a devastated girlfriend with comfort that transcends human understanding, for You are Creator God, and in Your hand is the life of every living thing, and the breath of all mankind .. Job 12:10.

Hasten the day when the pain of fourdeuce's grief is lessened. May he return to find comfort in these words:

He Maketh No Mistake ~ A. M. Overton ~ He leadeth me. Psalm 23:2

My Father's way may twist and turn, My heart may throb and ache; But in my soul I'm glad to know He maketh no mistake.

My cherished plans may go astray, My hopes may fade away; But still I'll trust my Lord to lead, For He doth know the way.

Though night be dark and it may seem That day will never break, I'll pin my faith, my all, on Him; He maketh no mistake.

There's so much now I cannot see, My eyesight's far too dim; But come what may, I'll simply trust And leave it all to Him.

For by-and-by the mist will lift, And plain it all He'll make; Through all the way, though dark to me, He made not one mistake.

I've walked where you're walking, fourdeuce, and I've stormed the Gates of Heaven to undo similar tragedies ... He will lead you through and love you every step of the way.

Pegita

[potlatch]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I'll pray for you.

[South40]

Sorry for your loss but the bullet in your head comment was a bit way weird.

[Dianna]

I am sorry for your loss and you and your friend's girlfriend are in my prayers.

[ellery]

FRiend, anyone who loves his/her friends as deeply as you clearly do must also be very special. My deepest prayers and condolences.

[LiberalBassTurds]

fourdeuce82d very sorry you lost your friend. Frustrating when it's an unexpected, unanticipatable (if that's a word) event that takes someone close.

Your buddy sounds like a free spirit and a risk taker. Feel happy that he got the most out of time here on Earth. He'd probably be the type of fella who'd rather go out having lived life the way he wanted to, experiencing as much as possible for the time he was here. Sure sounds like he did that. Much better than fading away with many unfulfilled dreams and a life unrealized potential. If he lived that type life, as short as it may have been, then he did well.

Celebrate his life. Turn your shock into something positive. There are ways... Just takes some contemplation.

LBT

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[hocndoc]

I'm sorry for your loss.

Please do not hurt yourself, mentally or physically.

We can't understand the way God works anymore than the ants understand why I'm digging up the new flowerbed.

Just trust, and do what you can to fill the hole created by the loss of your friend. Perhaps you can use this energy to change the parts you don't like about yourself to become more like the parts you liked about your friend.

[ladyinred]

While I know you are hurting from the loss of your dear friend, please don't blame God. You are not being punished for anything you did. Instead of finding yourself angry with God, please consider asking Him to comfort you and your friend's family. I am so sorry for you and for the family. May God give you all the strength and comfort you need to get through this pain.

[A Simple Soldier]

My deepest sympathies to you as you mourn your friends passing.

[Cindy]

Snippet: " just wish I could put a bullet in my head and bring him back in some sort of trade- I'd do it. but I know I can't, so don't worry."

Sir,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts today and
thank you for your service to our country.
My condolences for the loss of your special friend.
God granted you 30 years of a special friendship.
Those memories are a blessing.
Cherish them.
Cherish life.

May God grant you peace and wisdom that only He
can give you.

In Jesus Name.
Amen.

[aposiopetic]

Extremely sorry to hear of your loss. You are now called into service once again, to honor your friend by perpetuating his memory for posterity. As your heart and everyone's prayers are heard, believe that you will be granted whatever is needed for the task that lies ahead.