Your wife ran out on you, for a man who carried around a bear's head in a sack,looking for an anthill ? For real ?
You have a remarkable knack for...what shall I call it, without be3ing rude ? LOL
FWIW, I'd rather have a student/friend/whatever, who wasn't safe, boring, and conformist, but had some cleverness and whno sometimes thought out of the box a wee bit. :-)