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My ex-husband was a complete loser. He was verbally abusive, hateful and self-destructive. He divorced me finally after 19 years of a hellish marriage and I never asked him to reconsider. He was disabled; otherwise I am sure he would have stalked me after the divorce. He tried to do that during the divorce, before he was further handiacapped.

Anyway, during the divorce time, I was complaining one day at home about the kids' father, out loud, and my six-year-old son said to me, "I still like my dad."

I realized then that despite my anger at my ex, I would be wrong to taint his memory in the minds of my kids with my opinions. I vowed then to stop talking about him in front of my kids. I would state facts, not opinions, and try to understand him as best I could. I think it helped.

Your advice is right on. Good for you. :)