[Aliska]

Just as an aside, if if if something was done to Terri, my experience might shed some light. My ex-husband tried to strangle me back in the late 60's or early 70's, and I was outraged, but I never called law enforcement on him nor did I tell my parents. You don't like to admit you have made a mistake in your marriage because too much is at stake until you are ready and able to face it. Women used to take abuse and keep quiet about it.

[EggsAckley]

You got that right, Aliska. That stuff happens every day. As a matter of fact, even if Terri's family didn't hear about any abuse, it was reported that she told her siblings that she desperately wanted a divorce from Michael. That speaks volumes.

[tuckrdout]

She was only married to this creep for 3 years too. Her brother had stated that Teri told him the very night of her collapse, that she and Michael were having an argument!

[Quietly]

Because I've recently been diagnosed terminal (cancer) and because of Terri, I've been determing an advance directive. To my suprise, there is already an advance directive that forbides the withdrawl of hydration and nutrition. Meaning, there's nothing new about this at all, as I've been finding out. People are regularly being dyhydrated and starved to death in this country all the time, which is why it's such a struggle for Terri. We think it's exordinary, but it isn't.

I'm planning on making it exordinary by making sure that my advance directive is the one that makes it clear that I am *NOT* to be deprived of hydration or nutrution, or any other means to "speed me along," - even if I change my mind later because of pain. My family and friends will remind me and say no, and hug me and love me, but remember I really mean "no." Terri sshould live long after I do. I hope so!