If you play with matches, who is to blame, the match or the one who lit the match. You can flame me all you want, but it's about time for both men and women to take some responsibility. Rape is horrible. That goes without saying. But the concept that all you have to do is say NO at the last moment and all is well is insane. That's like standing in front of a freight train, whispering "Stop." Just don't stand in front of a freight train.
I have worked in a hotel. It's against all regulations to enter a room where you don't have business, and if you are working in room service, maintenance, housekeeping, or a bellhop, you never close the door of a room while in the room. This is not only to protect the patron and the employee, but to protect against false claims of rape.
Men should treat women as ladies, but women need to behave as ladies.
There is a very heavy price to pay for adultery. Broken families and ruined lived, often leaving a path of destruction. Having intercourse with someone you don't know puts you at risk for diseases, fatal attractions, and claims of rape. It's high risk behavior. Not to mention pregnancy with someone you don't want to spend the rest of your life with.
The rules have behavior have changed and there are too many mixed messages. I don't envy men who have to figure it all out and then end up in the wrong.
PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY???
GASP!
HOW DARE YOU?
Well said. Or a pedestrian expecting that right-of-way rules will protect him from a truck. It seems, unfortunately, that because a woman has "a right to say no" at any point in a sexual encouter, that some girls believe this will actually ensure their safety. Philosophy is full of rights that can be mighty difficult to enforce.
I take no position on whether this young woman was raped; there's simply too much conflicting "evidence" being offered. However, she's unquestionably an object lesson for other women who'd like to avoid rape. My lecture would start "Don't do a single thing that Miss X did."