Many thoughts flood my mind for the term *realist when used in this way-
reading between the lines
Bitter
lack faith
luke warm
Not taking responsibility to endure!
It is easy to hang in there during the good times,
but the test comes when things get ruff!
IMHO
*It really depends on the foundation of ones CORE values!
What is realistic to me is to know where folks are coming from so communication can improve!
There must be some common denominator!