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When it comes to my mom, that is definitely true about the spoiling. Luckily though, hubby's mom isn't into that. I've given her free reign on treating my kids the same as her own and she does pretty good most of the time. She's always telling me she was a terrible mommy but she raised 3 great boys (well, 2 great boys, and one decent boy) so I don't believe her bad mom story. 90% of the time she'll let both kids cry longer than I would. She's a lifesaver when I visit her with the kids. When the toddler was 4-6wks old and I was so sleep deprived she even let me sleep a whole night by myself and stayed up with him all night. When he would cry too loud, she would take him into the bathroom just to keep him from waking me up! Even the hubby wouldn't do that for me for a night. I'm going to go read that site and try it. I haven't slept through a night where I haven't had to wake up atleast every hour and a half since about 3 months before she was born. That's a whole YEAR now of bad sleep. I have no energy at all to do anything around the house and it's starting to upset the hubby a lot. Lately there is a lot of tension because the house is a constant disaster area and he blames it on the computer and doesn't realize that I'm on the computer because I just have zero energy to keep kids out of stuff and do housework too. PLus, when I leave the room, both kids go insane, even if I'm just in the kitchen. That's when the toddler starts throwing things into the fish tank or shoving the baby's head into the wall/door/whatever. And that's when the baby sit's and screams until she can see me again. It makes me want to get a full time job and stick them both in daycare sometimes just to get a break because the hubby is tired too from working and can't give me a day off ever. I've been begging for months for just ONE day where he would get up with them in the morning, keep them all day, do all the diapers, and put them to bed that night without my help. So far, it hasn't happened. He did let me sleep in Sunday, which was nice. I swear though that when the baby is fully weaned (we are working on just switching her over to real milk now)I am going off for a whole weekend by myself. I don't think it's too much to ask at all either. (sorry for all the venting, i know i've been doing it a lot lately, i'm just stressed out a lot lately)