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Even from the earliest days of our marriage, we did some things together, but also did things separate from each other....and when we had the boys, if I wanted to take the boys to a museum or the zoo, but Dom had some sports he wanted to watch on TV, then I just took the boys myself, and he stayed home...no big deal...on the other hand, he was always taking the boys to sports events, and to the movies, two places I really dont like to go...so he took the boys with him, and I stayed home, or did what I wanted...yet, we did many things together as a 'whole' family...

Now that we have been married for so many years, and no longer have the kids at home, we are still like this...Dom does what he wants, I do what I want, and often we do things together...that keeps us both happy...

Dom gets lots of vacation time from the Post office, and always sets aside 3 weeks a year for him and I do to something together...but his other two weeks, he uses to go back to Chicago, to see his friends, or to Florida to see other of his friends, and some of his relatives...I am always invited to go, but always decline, prefering to spend my time here....

But Dom has lots of friends back in Chicago, whose wives are appalled that I let Dom come back to Chicago all on his own...good grief, what is wrong with them?...many of Doms friends would like to come out here to Washington for a visit, but lots of their wives dont want to make the trip, and dont want their husbands to go on their own...one of them did manage to pry himself away from his wifes clutches for a few days, and visit, and he sure wished he could have stayed longer....another friend who has been long divorced has been out here many times, but I know if he was still married, his wife would have had a fit if he came out here on his own...

Even for their annual Memorial Day picnics, the guys all go, but at least 1/2 of their wives stay home...and those guys have to leave the picnic early, so their wives wont crab...I dont get it...why are some women so upset, ,when their husband want to do things on their own?...

To me, life is all too short(especially now, since I am almost 60)....why not be happy, and be happy when your spouse is happy, even if sometimes that happiness is found by being apart for a time, rather than together all the time...