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>> Parents can't really control what their 20-something year olds are doing,

No, this is not correct. Parents don't try since they have this weird idea that when a child hits 18 or 21 that they are free to do what they want. Parents rule the roost, and if their children want to be independant then parents need to show them the door.

>> and they can't control what their kids at college are doing.

Exactly. So many parents send their kids to college AWAY from home. Very dangerous. Make your kid commute to school.

Hopefully, by the time the kids reach 20 something, the "kids" should be able to live responsible lives. That is only if the parents actually played an active role in raising their children. I understand that your friends daughter was brought up in a Christian home, but she obviously didn't take to what was being taught. I don't know how the parents raised their daughter, but most parents these days can afford to be quite a bit more involved in their childrens lives. My parents raised me with love, morals, and boundries. I'm in my first year of college and haven't done anything stupid that I regret, or that my parents would be ashamed of. I was taught that waiting until marriage was the right thing to do, because it makes the relationship all the more special.

I live 2 1/2 hours away from home. Like I said, I'm doing just fine on my own. But that's because my parents did a good job raising me.

Very dangerous. Make your kid commute to school.

Good idea. No kid would ever want to have sex in the back seat of a car.

What you're missing is that you can not stand on guard over a 20 year old.