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Your Mom is operating on irrational emotion. Your letter is based on reason, and won't do any good.

You shouldn't tell Mom to "deal with it" (reality, that is.) She has already demonstrated that she can't. What you Mom needs to know is that this issue won't tear you apart from her (you need to be the grownup, and treat her with the sensitivity that you would a child.)

You might reply sensitively:

"Dear Mom,"

"One of the reasons I am grateful to have you for a mother is because you taught me to think for myself. I hope that you can feel proud of me when I do that, even when it leads us to disagree."

"I want to be sure I understand the principles that lead you to your views. Do you think it was wrong for the U.S. to bomb occupied France in WWII, knowing that innocent citizens would die and the country's infrastructure wouold be destroyed? Was it wrong to have bombed Nazi munitions factories, knowing that thousands of civilian and slave workers who were oppressed by Nazism would die in the process?"

"Do you think that there is ever a time when a nation can or should morally attack another nation? To stop genocide? To restore democracy? To prevent opression of women?"

"Thank you for sharing your views with me."

"Love, your son."

(Note that the letter says not one word about what YOU think, nor is it pushing her to accept your views.)