[SauronOfMordor]

I find it extremely peculiar that the ones that are taken are dating the guy flipping pancakes down at IHOP treating them like S^%&%.

When I'm not getting results, and somebody else is, I generally try to study what the other guy is doing and try doing the same

It's frequent that we hear about the guy who gets lots of girls but treats them badly. So why are girls attracted to such? What the guy is doing is communicating to the girl

"I can replace you with another girl who is equally cute whenever I want to. Why should I go out of my way to treat you nice? You are the one who needs to concentrate on keeping me happy".

What we guys may see as arrogance, many girls may see as self-confidence. A high-degree of self-confidence, if coupled with a decent degree of intelligence, may produce economic success later in life. Girls look for that

Also, if the guy is not overly impressed with her, then she may consider it a challenge to see if she can ultimately wrap him around her finger

Lastly, the IHOP guy leaves his work behind when he takes off his apron. He doesn't discuss pancake-flipping techniques with a girl, in the expectation that she'll be interested in hearing about it. One technique that, in my experience, almost never fails is: be interested in her. Shut up about your stuff for a while. Find something about the girl that you can be interested about, and ask her about it (if there's nothing about her that you can be GENUINELY interested in, move on). Let HER talk about what interests HER. Shut up about your activities and interests except in response to HER questions, which will come when she runs out of things to say about her stuff. Do not reveal yourself completely on the first date -- make her work to discover you.

[Moosilauke]

There's nothing the matter with you, it's the world that's changed. The legacy of the feminist tidal wave of the 70's will be with us for a long time to come. This ideology dominates popular culture. It's basic theme: all men are stupid, domineering brutes, especially if they are english-speaking caucasians. This is the stock theme of just about every show you see on TV and every advertisement. On university campuses this gets coupled with the politics of victimology. Looking for a mate at college will be a waste of your time. You are the enemy and when you fail to follow thru with the expected abuse (thereby confirming the victim status of your date) you are no longer of interest. Jerks have no trouble getting women because they fit the male profile, confirming the feminist ideology.

After you graduate and take a technical/professional job you'll find yourself immersed in more of the same. You will not likely find a politically or socially conservative mate amongst the realm of the professional women. They're too busy being simultaneously successful and oppressed to take much concern for love or companionship.

Sorry to rain on things but it's an old wives tale that the right one will pop up soon enough if you just quit trying so hard. That's sort of like saying the republicans would get more of the women's vote if they just quit campaigning so hard. Your chances are probably best if stay far from either coast and away from big cities. Prayer can't hurt but don't expect miracles. Your best bet is to recognize the way things are and quit blaming yourself.

[hadaclueonce]

log off your puter. blow up your TV. Realize beautiful women are like china, a chip does not ruin the entire set...

[A Vast RightWing Conspirator]

I know exactly what you must do.

Change your column to a 'sex talk' or, if it's a 'conservative' site, call it 'relationships' or something like that. Make sure you include your email address. One of the columns could be your own story - don't mention it's you, of course.

[A Vast RightWing Conspirator]

Oh, and make sure that you include your picture with the column.

[RockyTop4GOP]

Advice from a 21-year-old conservative college female--

It's funny but I just finished leading a Bible study on this subject from a girl's point of view, which completely changed my attitude towards the whole dating/marriage thing.

I've also gotta say, conservative girls are out there. I know, because most of my friends are conservative.

First of all, listen to some of these wisened Freepers that tell you not to worry. They know their stuff. If you are a Christian, God has a plan for you. As my mom says, when God brings you together with the person you're supposed to be with, nothing, absolutely nothing can keep you apart. Until then, God is simply preparing you for your future spouse as well as your future spouse for you.

Enjoy life! Relax! If you think in the long-run, and say you get married by the age of 30, you have 40-50 potential years of bills, kids, work, no money(I guess some things never change) and stress. This is the only time we're allowed to goof off and have fun. Adult life will hit us sooner than we want.

Don't knock parties! As a person with the dance talent of Elaine Benez, there's nothing better than groovin' with my sorority sisters.

If you have trouble at church, join a campus group. Reformed University Fellowship, a Calvinist group, is a great organization and are at campuses across the country.

However, don't join a church or religious group just to meet girls. You can always sense when the opposite sex is desperate. As hard as it is, just wait. Spend your time learning new hobbies, learn a new language or backpack across Europe. Just remember to enjoy life, and not worry about the future. :) Phil. 4:6-7. Sorry for the long read, but I had to add my two cents!

[MonroeDNA]

Ask the closest, non-relative woman you know,

"What am I doing wrong?"

Take her to lunch, make sure you have about 3 hours, and just ask.

It will be the toughest question you ever ask, but you will get honest advice. And just listen. Keep your mouth shut.

Asking for feedback by people who know you is the hardest thing in the world to do, but is the only way to grow fast.